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I think these are very individual choices. Some people should never talk about marriage and others, maybe people who've been friends a long time before dating, can discuss the possibility early on. And not every woman wants the formal proposal, the down on one knee kind of thing ---I know I wouldn't; too formal for me. But I think that's the point, that each engagement should be unique to the people involved.
I think at about the one year mark, you need to know if the relationship is leading to marriage or else it's time to end things. At least if you're over 25 and plan on marrying eventually. But if you've been together for that long and don't plan on going the distance, why bother dragging things on?
I think it depends... I'm 30 and I have been with my bf for a year and a half and have kwnon him for 17 years.... so I talk about marriage to him alot... and @ my age I don't think that's wrong... but he doesn't want to hear any of it.
In my mind, I just want to know if it is going to happen sometime soon otherwise I don't want to waste my time.
I think women just want to know if it is going to happen so that if the guy has no interest in it ever, we can leave. I have spent too many time in relationships where the man didn't want it to escalate beyond "girlfriend and boyfriend."
i don't want to be in a relationship with someone who i don't want to marry. and he should think the same thing about me.
so we were talking about marriage in the beginning of our relationship and we're still talking it has been nearly 3 years. unfortunately we still have to wait
I think before you even start dating someone you have to think about whether you ever want to get married to someone or not. Then, after a few months of dating you should bring up the subject and find out if your expectations match. Otherwise, you're wasting each others time.
I agree with other posters who point out that many couples in the past stayed together because of social stigma and financial pressures. (Although the flip side of that is those pressures often forced people to work out problems a little harder then couples these days who tend to give up too easily.)
For those who want marriage, I really think its a mistake to get engaged in less than a year. For the majority of relationships, I think its a sign of either desperation or immaturity. For those who say that life is too short to wait, I'd remind them that indeed it is--one can waste an awful lot of time in divorce court by rushing in to things.
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