Are kids really a dealbreaker for that many people? (accept, respect, profile)
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You know, even though my husband definitely paid his child support (and willingly, because he loves his son and wouldn't dream of skipping out on any obligation toward him), I knew that indirectly I was paying - because less money in the whole till is just that - less money for the marriage, the couple, savings, vacations, goals, retirement, etc.
Oh well, that chapter of our life is over. Now, I no longer have to work full time, and I still have a great husband and stepson - and the ex wife is still, well...herself. Yes, she is totally stuck with herself.
But I do not blame people at ALL who do not wish to burden their lives with someone else's children or prior relationship issues. It's a personal choice. I felt, after raising four teenagers, that I had the fortitude to deal with it - and my husband was worth it because we saw eye to eye on child rearing issues. But that's a tricky balance to find - and some people never find it.
The difference is that I've been both, single without kids and single with kids and unless someone has had kids, then how could they possibly know what I mean when I say it's a different kind of love. I myself don't wish to date anyone of any age that wants to have children because I do not wish to have more. That's more of a physical, financial, and time issue more than not "wanting" more. I can't tell you how many times I've been told off by people online, without children, when I tell them I do not want more and I don't want to waste time with someone that does.
My problem is with people that say it isn't an issue, take time to get to know me and possible meet my kids, and then it not work out. It hurts the kids more than just being upfront.
The difference is that I've been both, single without kids and single with kids and unless someone has had kids, then how could they possibly know what I mean when I say it's a different kind of love. I myself don't wish to date anyone of any age that wants to have children because I do not wish to have more. That's more of a physical, financial, and time issue more than not "wanting" more. I can't tell you how many times I've been told off by people online, without children, when I tell them I do not want more and I don't want to waste time with someone that does.
My problem is with people that say it isn't an issue, take time to get to know me and possible meet my kids, and then it not work out. It hurts the kids more than just being upfront.
It's a different kind of love. However, you originally said it's not true love unless you have kids. THAT'S what I call BS on. I don't really care about the other crap.
It's a different kind of love. However, you originally said it's not true love unless you have kids. THAT'S what I call BS on. I don't really care about the other crap.
Okay then whatever lol. I really don't see what wording has to do with anything, but I think, no I'm pretty sure, most people knew what I meant.
I am separated and have two little ones. Obviously from reading here, some people REALLY don't want to date any one that already has children. So I want to know how many people actually feel that way.
Also, what if I don't want any more children, would that deter some people to the point of not wanting to date?
I've known a few people actually that have their own kids, but outright REFUSE to date any one with kids of their own.
What is that about anyway?
Men who refuse to date women with kids usually relent and change their minds when they get a little older. The reason is simple mathematics. The great majority of women over 30 have kids. If a man in his 30s, 40s or older refuses to date women with kids, he usually finds his dating pool dwindle to nearly nothing pretty fast.
Men who refuse to date women with kids usually relent and change their minds when they get a little older. The reason is simple mathematics. The great majority of women over 30 have kids. If a man in his 30s, 40s or older refuses to date women with kids, he usually finds his dating pool dwindle to nearly nothing pretty fast.
Or he is dating a 23 year old. That would get cumbersome real quick.
LOL than so be it..But I'm free to be a terrible human being
Indeed, cheers to you. However, you are a terrible human being. You're obligated to only date single parents haven't you heard?
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