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By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke. In my case, I don't even log onto my dating profile if I dont have gas or money that day.
Its just like, is this what the internet attracts? Older men with money and younger broke men? It just seems my past few dates have been with guys like this and its just making me wonder whether its a bi-product of online dating, the lingering economy, the city Im at, or just a day in the life of a early/mid 20's something dating scenario.
Either way, its becoming a drain. Its hard to enjoy a real dating relationship when its not equal footing. Its like the Billy Preston song....
Things have been rough for young men since the late 1970s. The type of jobs they traditionally took, dried up and even those who were prepared for other careers found the entrance of so many females into these fields, severely limited their chances to get hired and promoted.
Meanwhile this had the effect of driving down wages for men. If they were realistic, they would just say "I can't afford to date until I get my financial house in order." Instead, many attempt to rely on bravado! Eventually, they get caught and its a "problem" of so many being liars, players and cheats. Sad really.
This probably has got much worse in the past 3 years.
By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke. In my case, I don't even log onto my dating profile if I dont have gas or money that day.
Its just like, is this what the internet attracts? Older men with money and younger broke men? It just seems my past few dates have been with guys like this and its just making me wonder whether its a bi-product of online dating, the lingering economy, the city Im at, or just a day in the life of a early/mid 20's something dating scenario.
Either way, its becoming a drain. Its hard to enjoy a real dating relationship when its not equal footing. Its like the Billy Preston song....
Next time a guy says he's broke when you say let's do a dollar movie-- tell him you'll pay the dollar.
(ps. if you have days when you don't have gas or money, you should really be focusing on your income.. ) good luck
By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke. In my case, I don't even log onto my dating profile if I dont have gas or money that day.
Its just like, is this what the internet attracts? Older men with money and younger broke men? It just seems my past few dates have been with guys like this and its just making me wonder whether its a bi-product of online dating, the lingering economy, the city Im at, or just a day in the life of a early/mid 20's something dating scenario.
Either way, its becoming a drain. Its hard to enjoy a real dating relationship when its not equal footing. Its like the Billy Preston song....
OP...don't you think that if you keep meeting broke men....that you and your choices are the issue..and not the men?
Are you choosing these men by their looks?
Or their cars?
Or the words in their profiles?
One or two phone calls should be able to tell you whether or not this guys has a pot AND a window.
If he does NOT and you STILL choose to date him...how can you complain about the results?
By no means am I trying to seem as if Im better (and I myself have to deal with money issues occasionally) but it just seems like all the guys I meet for dates online are always broke.
It just seems, they never have money to take me out anywhere...or even when I offer to just do something simple like a $1 movie, they cite being broke. In my case, I don't even log onto my dating profile if I dont have gas or money that day.
It seems to me that your NOT really attracting these young men at all. If they are turning down YOUR offers of dates, it's because they aren't into you enough to want to go out with you in person.
Perhaps you are being too eager to go out on dates with these online guys. Maybe you need to play harder to get and wait for them to do the asking out. You are coming across as too desperate for their company and it's putting them off.
im not sure but i think it has to do with inability to focus enough to learn a trade and get a job but fantastic ability to rush blood to the lower extremities at a moments notice.
There is a reason why many men in their early to mid 20's range(my age range) are often broke.
1)My case(and the cases of some others) is lack of jobs or decent paying jobs. I don't have a car. I just have rent, utilities, and food. No room for dating.
2) The people who seem to have good jobs spend alot of their money paying their car insurance, cell phone bill, car note, gas for the car, rent, utilities, food, etc.
Lack of jobs for many, and alot bills for those who have decent jobs. That is what I can think of.
Well, considering that anyone who is younger than 23 should still be in college, I can see guys that age being broke. Up until I was 26 I was ALWAYS broke and, in my early 20s, I only worked three hours a day as a teacher's assistant while I was in school and all that money went to my cousin who was renting me a room in her house.
Dating was never about doing something that I had to pay for so much as just hanging out together outdoors or staying in for some bedroom gymnastics. I guess I was lucky that I went out with girls who understood what being a "starving student" meant.
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) good luck
