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I - We, my husband and I - have a great relationship. Together 10 years, married 8 years. We hang out with other couples that have been together a while and still have a great relationship too. Are we a minority?...Lots of postings and threads are about negative relationship issues. Seldom, OK never do I see, I have a great marriage, and here is how it works !! I know there are others with equally as good marriages as we have. lets hear more from these folk ! maybe those of you who have not succeeded can draw insperation and guidence from this !! Rather than listen to those who can only empathise through the same experience !!
TRUST !! absolutely number one asset.......HONESTY....if you can't tell your partner what's on your mind then your dead in the water.... Ability to LISTEN (to the whole story) without intervention of opinion before your partner has finished.....
I - We, my husband and I - have a great relationship. Together 10 years, married 8 years. We hang out with other couples that have been together a while and still have a great relationship too. Are we a minority?...Lots of postings and threads are about negative relationship issues. Seldom, OK never do I see, I have a great marriage, and here is how it works !! I know there are others with equally as good marriages as we have. lets hear more from these folk ! maybe those of you who have not succeeded can draw insperation and guidence from this !! Rather than listen to those who can only empathise through the same experience !!
Those who post on relationship forums have problems. (OK, you sane regulars, no stomping on me about that comment because you know very well what I mean!) There's an abundance of people out there in happy and fulfilling relationships but they don't post on these forums because they've no need to. You're NOT a minority - far from it!
Many of those such as you who are successful do contribute by offering advice but without necessarily giving "tips on a successful relationship" - but just by offering simple advice.
To those in the throes of despair about their current relationship being in shambles and who post sometimes out of sheer desperation, there actually is probably nothing more off-putting than somebody who bounces in and proclaims that, "oh, we're just hunky dory and this is how we do it!"
Negative news is always good fodder whether it be on prime time TV or on some forums.
Give what you can when you can, on this forum, to provide a glimmer of hope to those looking for it. Have fun with the idiots, tolerate the incessantly stupid and, best of all, know from reading so many of the threads that you are indeed blessed!
Well, I was in a fulfilling, almost perfect relationship for 6 out of the almost 8 years. For those 6 years, since things were going more than ok, I felt no need to talk about it whatsoever
And yes, people only usually use the Internet and forums to post about the problems they have. I was checking out 'cheating' yesterday. Went to a female site, it stated..'all men are meant to cheat..hey, even Brad Pitt almost cheated on Angelina ...and she's Angelina!'. Then they stated how faithfull they, as women are. After which I went on a dude's site, where they stated that all women are...well, cheap, and that even Angelina was tempted to cheat on Brad Pitt...and he's Brad Pitt for pit's sake...after which stating how faithfull they are. This is no joke
So bottom line is, there are plenty of happy healthy marriages out there. TV and the net are never a good source of comparing to real life just like the OP said.
I've never been married, but I know a lot of people with great relationships. We don't see many posts about it here, so thanks for lightening up the joint.
My thoughts...STAY POSITIVE!! As soon as one person in the relationship starts being negative then its hard to recover. Also, don't play the "I'm right you're wrong" games, it shouldn't have to come to that. Both people should just be at an understanding that there is a difference of opinion and move on. Simple as that!!
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