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ok, when i discover that a girl that i am interested in is in a relationship, i always seem to bolt from them and quickly lose interest in them without even wanting to remain friends. Like that woman online who tried to get money from me, i didnt care that she could have been using me because i still wanted to talk to her- but when i learned that she had a boyfriend i didnt want to contact her anymore.
I dont know how to describe it but this seems to be my natraul instinct....to lose contact with them when i learn that they have a boyfriend. How would you describe this behaviour? How would you put it into the right terms?
Also, why is it that when we learn that a celebrity that we are attracted to is in a relationship (ie Jennifer Lopez) that we lose interest in them?
Do you not have any good platonic friendships with any women at all? Are all your friends guys?
Or is it that when you like a woman romantically, if it turns out she is unavailable, you can't change from Romeo mode to just being friends with her?
Anyway, from your track record with women, I feel that you should try to be platonic friends with a few of them. And in being just friends with them (think of them as sisters), they can help you understand how women think and also give you some real life advice about your dating attempts.
ok, when i discover that a girl that i am interested in is in a relationship, i always seem to bolt from them and quickly lose interest in them without even wanting to remain friends. Like that woman online who tried to get money from me, i didnt care that she could have been using me because i still wanted to talk to her- but when i learned that she had a boyfriend i didnt want to contact her anymore.
I dont know how to describe it but this seems to be my natraul instinct....to lose contact with them when i learn that they have a boyfriend. How would you describe this behaviour? How would you put it into the right terms?
Also, why is it that when we learn that a celebrity that we are attracted to is in a relationship (ie Jennifer Lopez) that we lose interest in them?
Bang a few, spread your seed around and you may lose your shyness.
Do you not have any good platonic friendships with any women at all? Are all your friends guys?
Or is it that when you like a woman romantically, if it turns out she is unavailable, you can't change from Romeo mode to just being friends with her?
Anyway, from your track record with women, I feel that you should try to be platonic friends with a few of them. And in being just friends with them (think of them as sisters), they can help you understand how women think and also give you some real life advice about your dating attempts.
I try to but from my experiences- when you become friends with women- the majority of the time they only want you to help them and give them advice with their relationships, and after you have done that, they dont need you.
I try to but from my experiences- when you become friends with women- the majority of the time they only want you to help them and give them advice with their relationships, and after you have done that, they dont need you.
This simply shows that you are sorely lacking in real-world relationship experience. Go on...get out there.
ok, when i discover that a girl that i am interested in is in a relationship, i always seem to bolt from them and quickly lose interest in them without even wanting to remain friends. Like that woman online who tried to get money from me, i didnt care that she could have been using me because i still wanted to talk to her- but when i learned that she had a boyfriend i didnt want to contact her anymore.
I dont know how to describe it but this seems to be my natraul instinct....to lose contact with them when i learn that they have a boyfriend. How would you describe this behaviour? How would you put it into the right terms?
Also, why is it that when we learn that a celebrity that we are attracted to is in a relationship (ie Jennifer Lopez) that we lose interest in them?
Question...do you ever make friends with women who you are not attracted to? Do you have any female friends who are not attractive? I'm guessing your female friends are all women who you find attractive because your initial intentions are to start out as friends and move on to dating. So it would only stand to reason that you would lose interest in the friendship once they've found someone else. It doesn't sound as though there was much of a friendship there, it was based more on your attraction to them, than truly wanting to be their friend with no expectations or strings attached.
I agree it doesn't sound like you are interested in friendship. I can only speak for myself, but when I am truly interested in someone, I like to be the "one and only". I don't like to play the "look at me" game where a lot of women try to out do each other with being over the top flirtateous, dressing like a sl*t, making him think I'd put out to get his attention. So maybe you just don't like competition, or maybe you think you can't compete?
Of course you could have said, "I'm sorry. I was thinking of my own wife and children. They were killed in a car wreck two years ago tonight. I'm sorry to have bothered you." Untrue as it would have been, that would have made her think before making another snap assumption about people.
I agree it doesn't sound like you are interested in friendship. I can only speak for myself, but when I am truly interested in someone, I like to be the "one and only". I don't like to play the "look at me" game where a lot of women try to out do each other with being over the top flirtateous, dressing like a sl*t, making him think I'd put out to get his attention. So maybe you just don't like competition, or maybe you think you can't compete?
well i wasnt speaking about just me, i was speaking about people in general. How they seem to lose interest when they learn that someone that they are interested in is in a relationship.
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This simply shows that you are sorely lacking in real-world relationship experience. Go on...get out there.
