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Ok i have a concern. My boyfriend (24) and i (21) have been going out for 3 months but have been known each other for 5 months. He has a 4 yr old son who he hasn't introduced me to yet and hasnt hinted as to introducing us. Im pretty sure after knowing someone for 5 months you know whether or not u want to bring your child around them. Im concerned he might not think of me as an important figure in his life. I dont want to ask him to introduce us because i'll feel it was forced, that he had to bc i brought it up. i want him to initiate things on his own. idk if im wasting my time or if i should wait any longer? Any advice or thoughts? Id really appreciate it!
next time he is talking about the kid, say "id love to meet him, maybe we can take him to chucke cheese or the park or something" if he says "no" say "why dont you want me to meet your son"
Yankeegirl- he see's his son everyday. And is a part of his life. Baby Mama is very much in the picture. he got her name tattooed on his chest when she had him. They've been on and off for years but he swears he's completely over her. that he has no romantic feelings. and that they dont talk only in regards to their son. but yesterday i found out he's on two fantasy leagues...one with her and one with me. i feel she's a threat to our relationship.
Single parents need to be mindful about dragging people in and out of their children's lives. A 3-month relationship is a blip on the radar--it's not even long enough to be certain it's serious or long-term. Wait until you've been together for closer to a year to make it an issue.
Yankeegirl- he see's his son everyday. And is a part of his life. Baby Mama is very much in the picture. he got her name tattooed on his chest when she had him. They've been on and off for years but he swears he's completely over her. that he has no romantic feelings. and that they dont talk only in regards to their son. but yesterday i found out he's on two fantasy leagues...one with her and one with me. i feel she's a threat to our relationship.
Then it sounds like you need to leave your options open. Date others.
Single parents need to be mindful about dragging people in and out of their children's lives. A 3-month relationship is a blip on the radar--it's not even long enough to be certain it's serious or long-term. Wait until you've been together for closer to a year to make it an issue.
but yesterday i found out he's on two fantasy leagues...one with her and one with me. i feel she's a threat to our relationship.
She is not just threat to your relationship, unfortunately, she will always be involved in your relationship. There is way stronger bond between them than you can see. I know you are not asking for this kind of advice, but I would run from this relationship.
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