I was drinking and one thing led to another..........do you buy it? (married, girl)
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We alone make the choice to drink. No other. The consequences that follow result from our decicions alone, and the blame for actions we take while under the influence must fall on our heads. So no, I would not accept this as excusable. If someone tried to blame alcohol for their cheating, it would get nowhere with me.
Besides, I have been wasted before. I still told people who hit on me to **** off (alcohol actually makes me very intolerant of guys trying to put their hands near me or who won't go away). If somebody is running around getting their groove on with random folks, then they possessed the tendency anyway, I think. Whilst I have had an alcohol related fling, I already had a major crush on the guy anyway and drinking just made me take the leap that I was too hesitant to take before that.
Ok, maybe I have watched too much Jerry Springer in my day but I can't believe that people STILL use this excuse!
I have always said alcohol is "liquid courage". It makes some people say or do things they "thought about or wanted to do" but would not under normal circumstances.
Would you buy this? Could you forgive and move on with that person if they did something like cheated or said something awful to you under the influence of alcohol?
It's an excuse. I've never been so drunk that I didn't know exactly what I was doing. And yes, I've been damned drunk a few times.
Well, if you're a guy and you've had too much to drink, it gets really hard to complete the act, so to speak. So, you're either sober enough to know better or too drunk to perform, big guy.
You're bringing up an interesting point, cpg, and since I've seen various definitions of "cheating" here, I'd be curious to know what others think about this. So, let's say the guy was unable to "perform" due to being way too drunk... In other words, there was no intercourse per se. Does his participation in the activities count as cheating or not in this case? Because to me it doesn't really make any difference whether he dipped his pecker somewhere or not once he was already engaged in the mentioned activities...
You're bringing up an interesting point, cpg, and since I've seen various definitions of "cheating" here, I'd be curious to know what others think about this. So, let's say the guy was unable to "perform" due to being way too drunk... In other words, there was no intercourse per se. Does his participation in the activities count as cheating or not in this case? Because to me it doesn't really make any difference whether he dipped his pecker somewhere or not once he was already engaged in the mentioned activities...
If they were naked and making out or something its just as bad imo. I mean its pretty clear they would be screwing if the guy could so whats the difference at that point?
If they were naked and making out or something its just as bad imo. I mean its pretty clear they would be screwing if the guy could so whats the difference at that point?
Precisely the way I look at it, too. However, it seems like to many people whether there was a big bad intercourse or not makes an enormous difference. I've always said to me an unconsummated and involved emotional affair is a whole lot more disturbing than an alcohol-induced one-night stand. To me the latter is not necessarily a good enough reason for throwing a marriage away.
Precisely the way I look at it, too. However, it seems like to many people whether there was a big bad intercourse or not makes an enormous difference. I've always said to me an unconsummated and involved emotional affair is a whole lot more disturbing than an alcohol-induced one-night stand. To me the latter is not necessarily a good enough reason for throwing a marriage away.
Maybe, you could make a case I suppose. Imo if they cheat its over, no second chances...even if it was one time and they were drunk. I don't plan on ever being with a woman who goes out getting hammered and being around other men either, so the odds of something like that happening will be pretty slim to nil.
Sorry had to post that... If a gal I was seeing slept with a guy because she was so smashed, then I question her self-control. I drink on occasion and of course I feel more frisky and onery but I know my limits and what is right or wrong. I may hit on a girl or two at a party or bar but never would I take advantage of her.
Maybe, you could make a case I suppose. Imo if they cheat its over, no second chances...even if it was one time and they were drunk. I don't plan on ever being with a woman who goes out getting hammered and being around other men either, so the odds of something like that happening will be pretty slim to nil.
Things are not as black and white if you have had a long and good marriage and particularly not if children are involved as well. In fact, nothing is ever that black and white.
It would be a very rare for cheating that would actually fly with me. Perhaps if my SO and someone else were stranded on a desert island, thinking they were lost forever, I MIGHT consider that excusable because when something really traumatic happens people tend to grab for whomever is there. In that case, it would probably be a don't ask don't tell scenario anyway.
Wow, you get pretty imaginative with the cheating scenarios.
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I've always said to me an unconsummated and involved emotional affair is a whole lot more disturbing than an alcohol-induced one-night stand. To me the latter is not necessarily a good enough reason for throwing a marriage away.
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