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we have great 5 dates and we are really into each other.
We met from online dating app. I don't know should I just go with my mind to maybe have sex after our next or next next great date or should I be clear to him about we should go exclusive first before we have sex?
I am looking for a long term relationship not casual sex.
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I don't know anyone that gets exclusive with people before knowing if there is sexual chemistry there (as adults, not talking about kids dating) as not having sexual chemistry is generally a deal breaker. This is a no brainer to me.
I'm sure they exist though. Heck, I learned about adult virgins on this board too.
We met from online dating app. I don't know should I just go with my mind to maybe have sex after our next or next next great date or should I be clear to him about we should go exclusive first before we have sex?
Literally, this is a case of making up your own mind and doing what is best for you.
If you were a girlfriend of mine and came to me with this issue, I'd more than likely encourage you to stop overthinking it.
I don't know anyone that gets exclusive with people before knowing if there is sexual chemistry there (as adults, not talking about kids dating) as not having sexual chemistry is generally a deal breaker. This is a no brainer to me.
I'm sure they exist though. Heck, I learned about adult virgins on this board too.
Lol, but we made out very hot, so I would assume that no unpleasant exception would happen to our sex...
Having 'a talk' about being exclusive seems really awkward to me.
There's a radio commercial in my area, that part of the commercial says "If you're 21 and in the mood..." You've had 5 dates and no sex yet. Chances are, the guy really likes you. If you're 'feelin it' then go for it. Most likely, you two are already thinking 'exclusive' so let it be.
I'm curious...are either of you feeling any sexual tension? Having trouble keeping your hands off of each other? If so, you two are going to be fine.
Having 'a talk' about being exclusive seems really awkward to me.
There's a radio commercial in my area, that part of the commercial says "If you're 21 and in the mood..." You've had 5 dates and no sex yet. Chances are, the guy really likes you. If you're 'feelin it' then go for it. Most likely, you two are already thinking 'exclusive' so let it be.
I'm curious...are either of you feeling any sexual tension? Having trouble keeping your hands off of each other? If so, you two are going to be fine.
Yes, we made out very hot and we couldn't even let hands off literally. He invited me to stay at his place but I said no. Well I am an Asian girl, so kind of shy still. But I do like him a lot. Actually it were 4 dates, I miscalculated. So is it still the case you said about he really likes me?
Lol, but we made out very hot, so I would assume that no unpleasant exception would happen to our sex...
How could you possibly assume that?
It's like people who say there's no such thing as bad pizza. Nope. I've had some really lousy pizza. If he's as inexperienced as you seem to be, it could be awful and you'd both never know. ...unless you think 30 seconds of missionary position is pleasant.
Your choice. There isn't a right or wrong, only what works for you.
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