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Because most people serve themselves and hence are selfish. If they see easy pickings they take advantage to get what they want. People won't walk all over you if you don't let them.
I got into a fight with a good friend tonight. She is constantly discounting my education. The truth is I have an MBA and did receive money from my parents, but not nearly enough to cover the cost of this house, which is paid for. I did a grueling commute for three years to double the value on my former house and pay for this house. I have such a hard time dealing with her. She is ALWAYS reminding me I could not be where I am without my family's money. Yet the truth is I could not be where I am without my hard work. My family did not sit in each one of those classes, my family is not bilingual. I am!
Oh, and now I have to tie in point A with point B. Well, the truth is she tries to be a friend - hence the manipulation. After all these years, it's hard not to see through. The point B is what do I do with it? Well, I stand my ground, get pissed off, put her in her place but the cycle keeps repeating itself. Sigh.
I got into a fight with a good friend tonight. She is constantly discounting my education. The truth is I have an MBA and did receive money from my parents, but not nearly enough to cover the cost of this house, which is paid for. I did a grueling commute for three years to double the value on my former house and pay for this house. I have such a hard time dealing with her. She is ALWAYS reminding me I could not be where I am without my family's money. Yet the truth is I could not be where I am without my hard work. My family did not sit in each one of those classes, my family is not bilingual. I am!
I can't even begin to fathom how you put up with someone like that. Remind that person that education is nothing but a piece of paper on the wall that says that you supposedly "know" stuff about a certain topic. It in no way ranks people to be better than others. It also sounds like this person only cares about superficial things like money. If this person does nothing but whine and complain about that stuff you should find new friends.
I can't even begin to fathom how you put up with someone like that. Remind that person that education is nothing but a piece of paper on the wall that says that you supposedly "know" stuff about a certain topic. It in no way ranks people to be better than others. It also sounds like this person only cares about superficial things like money. If this person does nothing but whine and complain about that stuff you should find new friends.
Movin, she sounds jealous and like someone that needs to feel better about herself at any cost...it sounds like you are on the right path to setting firm boundaries...it is a shame relationships are so hard sometimes...good luck!
I don't mean to sound harsh but it sounds like this person is more step mom material than a friend. Seriously, if your friends cause you problems get rid of them. Life is too short to sit around worrying about the past or trying to establish yourself on some prideful system based on the premise of faulty ideals called ambitions. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar.
Movin, she sounds jealous and like someone that needs to feel better about herself at any cost...it sounds like you are on the right path to setting firm boundaries...it is a shame relationships are so hard sometimes...good luck!
Thanks! There isn't much to be jealous of. I've worked hard for this roof over my head and paid the price. She is now builidng a cabin up north on her mother in law's dime with a second mortgage on her house. I stick to the basics - one house that is paid for .
a) she feels ashamed of her lack of accomplishment(s) and is trying to drag you down as result.
b) she has a superiority complex that she feeds by beating others down.
Thanks! There isn't much to be jealous of. I've worked hard for this roof over my head and paid the price. She is now builidng a cabin up north on her mother in law's dime with a second mortgage on her house. I stick to the basics - one house that is paid for .
There are so many people out there like that and they have a hard time seeing the sweat, blood and tears their friends put into their successes...it is unfortunate...you could just say "Sheesh, it must be nice to be able to mooch off your MIL for that cabin..."
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