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(wanted to do a poll)
I usually just pick out something and give direct orders to my husband to "get this & wrap it up" which always works...HOWEVER this came up in conversation over the holidays. Men & women had various opinions so thought it would be interesting to get feedback (an acquaintance had this happen and was not a happy camper!)
Example: Woman has access to CC throughout the year and in fact just 2 months ago bought a new car in October and said ..this is my Christmas & Birthday rolled into one! Fast Forward> woman has S.O.at Christmas with family around and she has nothing from her S.O. although she has purchased several items she has wrapped for him under the tree and he was aware of this...now my question is..should she have been upset that she received nothing from him although he is extremely wealthy or should she be grateful she has him throughout the year with some security or should she be pi$$ed that he did not so much as wrap up a pack of gum (hey it is the holidays)? My opinion is it must have been 1>embarrassing for her 2>she felt hurt so she should have let him know this asap 3>she should know most men know nothing about how women think and it was him taking her comments 2 mos ago literally. The thing is she is very upset, hurt and thinks it is a dealbreaker. Most of the men felt she should suck it up but agreed he could have wrapped up something inexpensive. Most of the women thought the man was a jerk who had the wrong priorities and she should see this as a red flag. I like both of them and have met this couple a few times and nothing seemed amiss but it was interesting to see how different men and women viewed this. What do you think?
Personally, I would never expect a gift from anybody. Ever. No matter how long I've been with them, how much money they made or how many gifts I had gotten them.
Well, she bought herself what she wanted - the car and all - I would suppose that would be enough. Why by something for someone who has everything or can get it themselves. My own family quit exchanging gifts altogether - it was just a waste no matter how token the gesture.
I got an anonymous gift on my front porch of a bunch of dog biscuits for the dogs...best present I ever got.
I did not receive a Christmas gift from my boyfriend last year. We had been dating for almost a year. It's not like I was expecting jewelry or anything fancy, but he got me absolutely nothing and then he went out of town to spend Christmas/New Year's with his family (I gave him his present before he left) and didn't even call me on Christmas (he sent a text message).
Personally, I would never expect a gift from anybody. Ever. No matter how long I've been with them, how much money they made or how many gifts I had gotten them.
I absolutely agree. No one should expect a gift but in the past years she recieved them so should she be upset? I wanted men & women's take on this. I would be puzzled if my husband did not get me something mainly because he always has asked me what I want a few weeks or even months ahead. I wonder if he asked her or maybe she dropped hints..that I don't know. I know some of the women were passionate about thinking he was a jerk and she should ditch him. I tend to think ..work it out although I do think IF she had expectations and was hurt then that part is going to be an ongoing issue. Most of the men were in his corner and it was interesting to see some of the couples get quite irritated by their sig other's response. Lots of interesting topics talked about over dinner that night..I won't even go into the different mindsets about TIGER!!!
I don't think not getting a Christmas gift from s/o is necessarily a big deal. It depends on the reasons behind it. Maybe there is an economic, religious or cultural reason. Or I guess it could be the person is selfish, insensitive, cheap or "just not that into u..." Now that's a deal breaker!
I did not receive a Christmas gift from my boyfriend last year. We had been dating for almost a year. It's not like I was expecting jewelry or anything fancy, but he got me absolutely nothing and then he went out of town to spend Christmas/New Year's with his family (I gave him his present before he left) and didn't even call me on Christmas (he sent a text message).
We are no longer together.
I think if you had expectations then you were smart and saw this might be his M.O.! Cut your losses early!
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