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I'd place them in the following order starting with the longest: 2, 1, 3, 4.
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couples not living together but do have sex.
This could aswell be long distance relationship. We're not talking about living in the same town, nor even remotly close to eachother?
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in all situations, the couples are not yet married and they've been together for a long time, say, maybe 3 years
This makes the chanse that they live close, very unlikely to me.
And to keep up a distance relationship you really need to have incredible trust, chemistry and the mentality to go through it. And this is rare to find, and even rarer to make it work.
If you go for rare individuals, I would say that a long distance relationship will last you longer when you finally get together. But the chanse of even getting that far is incredible slim.
It all comes down to the individual in question. But if i would go with majority then it's #1. If i would go with rare individuals that are 1/1 000 then i would pick #2.
[Edited] : For #2 to last, you need to get through all the hardship of a long distance relationship. And after that it will turn into a #1 as you will either end up living together, or part your ways.
1. couples living together and do have sex
2. couples not living together but do have sex.
3. couples not living together and DO NOT have sex.
4. couples living together but DO NOT have sex.
in all situations, the couples are not yet married and they've been together for a long time, say, maybe 3 years.
won't they get bored of each other quickly? i've had some friends they live together for a few years and they were planning to get married but they ended breaking up. said there was nothing to it anymore. no more excitements, nothing to look forward to. etc etc.
Yep, I'm not gonna lie here. Sex with the same person over and over sure does get boring and mundane BUT it's when you see it going in that direction that you do something about it vs doing something AFTER the fact that you regret. If you love someone you find ways to keep it exciting. Do something you wouldn't normally have done, wear something. Try new things. that's what relationships are about in the bedroom to keep it from getting boring.
which do you think will last longer?
1. couples living together and do have sex
2. couples not living together but do have sex.
3. couples not living together and DO NOT have sex.
4. couples living together but DO NOT have sex.
Sex is comatose and in danger of dying. Sex and intimacy in your relationship are still alive, but just barely. You need to take action before they die altogether. The upside is that sex can often be better than ever. As you get older, you and your partner are capable to deeper intimacy and more erotic sex. Eye-gazing in bed are one way to put this into gear. You and your partner probably aren’t real relaxed when you have sex.
I've pretty much accepted that sex is heading to the grave despite the small changes the wife have made over the years.
But I so know this feeling today when I perceive it as rejection, and in her view, she is tired.
I do know that this feeling will pass. I can tell that my mind goes to want to withdraw and distant, but I'm learning to express anger and frustration internally until it is gone and stops bothering me. All this means to me is that I still have some "me" work to do.
It's a mental exercise to accept myself that I am ok and have the right to express my needs. But a the same time, she has the right to choose for herself.
That said, I put the focus on me, and what I am doing wrong in "handling it."
First, the thought of sex to feel some connection and validation with her is a wrong thought. I do not need to feel a connection, the marriage perhaps need that connection. I do not need her for validation for I should be able to self-validate.
Next, the thought that sex is "scarce" because we will have company staying in our house this holiday, which means the possibility of sex to happen diminishes very close to zero. This thought that sex is not abundant tend to make me feel needy for what sex makes me feel. The way to handle this is to frame sex as abundant because I can choose to practice healthy masturbation and meet my need.
Last, there is an old behavior that tries to build resentment from my perceived rejection. One way to handle this was to think of it as "lost opportunity." But my mind seem to dwell in the loss of opportunity as fuel to build resentment. Feeling resentment just wants me to go back to the hold habit of withdrawing and doing passive agressive behaviors.
So, it seems like I need to stop perceiving it as a rejection. But perceiving it as loss opportunity tends to make me "want to fix it" but I know that I can not fix it, I can only work on me.
So I'm back to working on me... if that made sense.
1 and 2 is boiling the frog slowly. We set off several nukes.
Intense experiences are bonding experiences. People that survive disaster together are life long friends. I still remember the distance and the want.
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You should know within a year. I knew within 3 months. Only sociopaths can hide who they are longer. If you don't know within 6 months they are not the right person. You need to move on and keep meeting people. 3 years is a complete waste of time.
1. couples living together and do have sex
2. couples not living together but do have sex.
3. couples not living together and DO NOT have sex.
4. couples living together but DO NOT have sex.
in all situations, the couples are not yet married and they've been together for a long time, say, maybe 3 years.
You mean it is possible to live together and have sex?
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