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She was there last night. Turns out her boyfriend, the one in the thread above, dumped her a couple of weeks ago (long overdue, IMO). Well, a few drinks into the night, she becomes this pathetic hag just full of self-pity and entitlement. By the time the ball dropped, she was complaining how everyone left her alone at the bar, nobody cares about her and everyone hates her. As I write this, I think I could easily be talking about a 10 year old. She's 40. How does she not understand how much of a turn off that is?
It made me think of all the people I have met in my life who were angry, obnoxious drunks. Every single one was insecure, unhappy or has an otherwise unfulfilling life. A buzz-kill, every single one of them.
I don't really have any questions, this is more of a rant, but feel free to contribute your thoughts and experiences.
She was there last night. Turns out her boyfriend, the one in the thread above, dumped her a couple of weeks ago (long overdue, IMO). Well, a few drinks into the night, she becomes this pathetic hag just full of self-pity and entitlement. By the time the ball dropped, she was complaining how everyone left her alone at the bar, nobody cares about her and everyone hates her. As I write this, I think I could easily be talking about a 10 year old. She's 40. How does she not understand how much of a turn off that is?
It made me think of all the people I have met in my life who were angry, obnoxious drunks. Every single one was insecure, unhappy or has an otherwise unfulfilling life. A buzz-kill, every single one of them.
I don't really have any questions, this is more of a rant, but feel free to contribute your thoughts and experiences.
she was complaining how everyone left her alone at the bar, nobody cares about her and everyone hates her. As I write this, I think I could easily be talking about a 10 year old. She's 40. How does she not understand how much of a turn off that is?
You're not her friend.
It's not her job to 'turn you on' or make your NYE special, fun or anything.
Unfortunately, Christmas and New Years can be painful times for many people - it's too bad for them if they only have FAIR WEATHERED FRIENDS like you.
I agree. If I had a friend that was in the dumps because of some trauma or seasonal depression I'd be more patient and sympathetic. Sure, it is annoying that somebody is so depressed but everybody feels depressed at times. It is a part of life. I personally would show a lot more patience and understanding. Since we've all been in the same boat.
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Originally Posted by TumbleBug
You're not her friend.
It's not her job to 'turn you on' or make your NYE special, fun or anything.
Unfortunately, Christmas and New Years can be painful times for many people - it's too bad for them if they only have FAIR WEATHERED FRIENDS like you.
Apparently the naysayers here didn't read the original thread she posted about this woman she provided a link to. I can sympathise with PTC.
While my own 'bad' days have fallen at inopportune times for others, I have been respectful enough of an event or my surroundings to know when to draw the line. I've also put myself on hold when others have had bad times at seemingly wrong times and took what would have been an easy, fun time for me and diverted my attention to them and makeing it a fun time for them. These are close friends, however...but I draw the line at self absorbed pity party drunks.
To me, this woman she describes sounds like she HAS to be the center of attention at all times and mostly turns to PITY to be the center of attention. People like that P))) me off!
I knew a friend of a friend like that and we were all out one night for a bridal shower and bachelorette party and this girl had been whining about this guy for weeks so could she at least can it for one night? Oh, hell no. Stuck in a limo, in cramped quarters, on what should have been the bride to be's fun night before her wedding, this girl is just whining and crying sucking the life out of the room to complete uncomfortable silence. I finally said, "For crying out loud!! This is so and so's night already! ENOUGH!" I only said what everyone else wanted to and was told so at various times throughout the night. If she was going to have issues on this particular night then cancel out of respect for the other person, call someone and/or stay home, make other plans.
No, this woman isn't PTC's friend and doesn't owe her anything as someone posted - but in turn PTC doesn't owe her anything either in that respect and especially in retrospect so she isn't a 'fair weather friend.' nor is she insensitive and unsympathetic a person because of this.
This woman is obviously a childish attention wh*** as far as I can see.
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