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well, i've been seeing this girl for a few weeks now and the sex has been utterly lousy and un-satisfying. i've been with women much younger and much older than her as well and have had significantly better experiences. we get along great and she's an amazingly nice person...but she just doesn't know how to have a good time in the sack!
what would you do in a situation like this?
EDIT: the problem is that basically she just lies there, even though i know she's aroused after 2+ hrs of foreplay! i have to be really pro-active with her when trying different things...maybe i should rent a porno and watch it with her, haha!
Last edited by ElysianEagle; 01-10-2010 at 02:55 PM..
Maybe you could sort of help her by giving her ideas on how to spice things up?
Yes, it's true that there is more to a relationship than just sex, but you want to be truly happy at the same time, especially if it's in the long term.
If the ideas don't work out, and you don't feel as much of a connection or are just bored with it, then I would consider ending the relationship.
well, i've been seeing this girl for a few weeks now and the sex has been utterly lousy and un-satisfying. i've been with women much younger and much older than her as well and have had significantly better experiences. we get along great and she's an amazingly nice person...but she just doesn't know how to have a good time in the sack!
If everything else is good in the relationship...then I would recommend teaching her how sex can be more satisfying for you. Perhaps she's not "experienced" from having fewer partners OR she's just not into it as much as you.
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Originally Posted by ElysianEagle
well, i've been seeing this girl for a few weeks now and the sex has been utterly lousy and un-satisfying. i've been with women much younger and much older than her as well and have had significantly better experiences. we get along great and she's an amazingly nice person...but she just doesn't know how to have a good time in the sack!
Give it time, maybe she'll loosen up the more you two expand your comfort zones. Perhaps she's just a little inhibited and needs some time and a little gentle prodding. If after a few months things haven't changed then you have to determine which is more important, the sex or having someone you are happy with in every other way.
No such thing as lousy sex, some are just better that others. She may have issues, she may be containing the freak until later, or she may think you're a lousy lay; I mean really, 2 hrs of foreplay?
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