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What's the point of that? Leaving the ball in his court? Can't you just drop a line? Come to think of it... he didn't put any effort into it... why would you?!
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Originally Posted by Ep-
i have like 6 winks in my box right now. i kind of wonder why they didn't just say hi. just strikes me as an odd way of communicating!
I really think the "wink" is a feature that many use to simply let someone know that they found you interesting somehow. They might not have any desire to take it any further than that - perhaps the distance is too far, or whatever. But they felt a desire to at least let you know they liked what they saw.
And for some people that are extremely shy, this can be a start, at least. It's a hard thing to do - to put yourself out there, and for shy people, it's even more difficult.
So, when someone winks at me, if I see something there, I'll wink back, or perhaps email. If there is no response, then I make the assumption that it was one of those first types I described above. I don't give it another thought.
What's the point of that? Leaving the ball in his court? Can't you just drop a line? Come to think of it... he didn't put any effort into it... why would you?!
I mentioned earlier that I've been (maybe wrongly) conditioned to believe that guys don't like "aggressive" women. So, I just let them know that I'm interested as well, and leave the ball in their court. If they choose to not respond after my wink, I figure they weren't all that interested in the first place and I saved myself some time by not crafting a witty thoughtful e-mail that would have also been ignored.
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
So, when someone winks at me, if I see something there, I'll wink back, or perhaps email. If there is no response, then I make the assumption that it was one of those first types I described above. I don't give it another thought.
I mentioned earlier that I've been (maybe wrongly) conditioned to believe that guys don't like "aggressive" women. So, I just let them know that I'm interested as well, and leave the ball in their court. If they choose to not respond after my wink, I figure they weren't all that interested in the first place and I saved myself some time by not crafting a witty thoughtful e-mail that would have also been ignored.
I mentioned earlier that I've been (maybe wrongly) conditioned to believe that guys don't like "aggressive" women. So, I just let them know that I'm interested as well, and leave the ball in their court. If they choose to not respond after my wink, I figure they weren't all that interested in the first place and I saved myself some time by not crafting a witty thoughtful e-mail that would have also been ignored.
Yup!
I don't see a problem with winking and why all these people get their panties in a wad over it I don't understand.
I really can't be bothered crafting all these eloquent emails to all these people I haven't met. I wink to let them know I'm interested and they can look at my profile. If they wink back then I figure they liked what they saw and we can take it further.
Why write a bunch of dribble when it turned out they aren't interested?
Because they might become interested should they see some effort, wit, and eloquence.
Personally, I think winking is an *ok* idea...but more in the guys favor as it expresses physical looks and not personality.
My gf puts a HUGE value on personality and humor, she has pointed out some quite unattractive guys she has dated because they were funny as well as some quite studly guys that were as dull as paste. (Insert joke about me here).
Anyway, I just think that head shots and blurbs are more *looks* oriented and thus imbalanced.
Just speaking for myself, if I got gal to go on a date with me the usual response was that I was "better" than my profile. <shrug> Yay! I set the bar low!
P.S. Editted to add that while I am *guessing* that Sierra is attractive, my bet is that she is more attractive than her picture (whatever that may be) given what I've learned of her personality over the past year or so.
Because they might become interested should they see some effort, wit, and eloquence.
Dunno probably writing and debating on city data is more fun.
Probably if I really got into online dating, I wouldn't be writing long eloquent novels. Most young women can only do that txtspk thing now anyways. Anything more than a sentence is too much information for them.
Personally, I think winking is an *ok* idea...but more in the guys favor as it expresses physical looks and not personality.
My gf puts a HUGE value on personality and humor, she has pointed out some quite unattractive guys she has dated because they were funny as well as some quite studly guys that were as dull as paste. (Insert joke about me here).
Anyway, I just think that head shots and blurbs are more *looks* oriented and thus imbalanced.
Just speaking for myself, if I got gal to go on a date with me the usual response was that I was "better" than my profile. <shrug> Yay! I set the bar low!
P.S. Editted to add that while I am *guessing* that Sierra is attractive, my bet is that she is more attractive than her picture (whatever that may be) given what I've learned of her personality over the past year or so.
I wouldn't take any chances though. I'd have plenty of pics. And an armed Para Rescue team on standby for extraction in case the LZ is "hot".
I need one of those Breitling watches where you pull the pin and a team comes to get you.
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