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I am 29 yrs old, married a year, been with my husband 8years. I feel like I need a change!
I have been a nurse for 11years. I live in London and I really want to get out of London, my husband is older than me and wants to settle down out of the city and start a family, I don't and I feel like my marriage is holding me back. I know that sounds terrible.
I have always wanted to move to the states since I was a child but life got in the way, I feel if I don't make the move now while I am still kind of young, I never will. I don't think my husband will come to the states as he has a child here.
Do you think that I am being foolish and too old to be doing this??
I am 29 yrs old, married a year, been with my husband 8years. I feel like I need a change!
I have been a nurse for 11years. I live in London and I really want to get out of London, my husband is older than me and wants to settle down out of the city and start a family, I don't and I feel like my marriage is holding me back. I know that sounds terrible.
I have always wanted to move to the states since I was a child but life got in the way, I feel if I don't make the move now while I am still kind of young, I never will. I don't think my husband will come to the states as he has a child here.
Do you think that I am being foolish and too old to be doing this??
Help from a very confused woman!!
Did you REALLY have a down to earth talk with him on this?
Do you LOVE each other?
You didn't mention if you have any children between you two which if so figures in the mix.
First of all you should have had this discussion with your husband long ago. You should have let him know your desires and dreams long before now. Despite that, the fact of the matter is you are married now and unhappy. I would sit your husband down and tell him how you feel. You may be surprised how he reacts, and you may not, but he will know, and you will know how he feels. If he will not leave and you feel this is something you must do now, then you know your decision. If you do not feel ready for children yet, don't jump into that, a child is forever. Likewise if you are truly unhappy in your marriage it will not do wither of you any good to remain married. Good luck with your decision.
No I don't have any children, he has a child from a prev relationship! Yes I agree I should of had this discusiion years ago, but I met him when I was 21, very young. we have discussed it and he has told me point blank he doesn't want to move out there. I do love him, but I also know I would survive without him!
No I don't have any children, he has a child from a prev relationship! Yes I agree I should of had this discusiion years ago, but I met him when I was 21, very young. we have discussed it and he has told me point blank he doesn't want to move out there. I do love him, but I also know I would survive without him!
Then you have a very simple decision to make. Would you rather move to the states or keep your husband?
Keep in mind you can't just up and move to the states. Unless your already a US citizen. You can maybe get a tourist visa for up to 90 days or something...but you can't just move here.
You may want to check out the "legal immigration" forum. The first thread contains links to USCIS and Visa Department which will give you info for visiting or immigrating.
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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So you want to give up your entire life and husband to move to the states for something you think is here that is greater than what you have!
Sounds like your very unhappy over something that you haven't told us about. Either way you need to work that out yourself.
Grass is always, always greener here in the states didn't you hear that! Yeah right, no disrespect intended please. What would you do here that would more than take the place of your first 30 years of existance, a husband and a career? Hope you plan way ahead for you journey
Then you have a very simple decision to make. Would you rather move to the states or keep your husband?
Difficult though - do I stay with someone I love, or regret doing what I always wanted to do!
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