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Yeah I agree that its not her obligation to explain their past relationship. However asa guy I would be a lil pissed if I found out later that I was haging out with a guy you used to do and I thought you were just friends the whole time. But thats just me.
Which defies the originally posted question but that's OK Ameribull. Guess you just swung in on a whim! Sweet dreams, Princess!
Secrets have a way of coming out and most people are perceptive enough to spot when there's more than what they're being told. Also, the person who's guilty of covering will eventually be confronted on why they chose to conceal. That makes the person appear dishonest, which is far more damaging than discovering your SO had a past relationship. I agree with a previous poster. Games are for kids, not adults.
So... he tells this ex girlfriend of a year ago to bring along her new boyfriend to the party. And during the conversation, she says that during the introductions, she'd like to refer to my manager as "just an old school friend". And my manager got really insulted at the request. He feels that their former relationship shouldn't be covered up.
I think that this is something that she should share with her current BF, before the party. That way, there is no awkwardness in the introductions, and everything is out on the table.
Hopefully, he`s not the jealous type.
One of my new managers is in his early twenties. He's having a birthday party for himself in NYC in a few weeks. He's invited an ex girlfriend to the party. They broke up when she graduated from school and moved out of state. They parted as friends. Their breakup was over a year ago. Currently he's single and just broken up with his last girlfriend. This last breakup was also amicable and a result of her being in NYC and him having moved up to Boston for work.
So... he tells this ex girlfriend of a year ago to bring along her new boyfriend to the party. And during the conversation, she says that during the introductions, she'd like to refer to my manager as "just an old school friend". And my manager got really insulted at the request. He feels that their former relationship shouldn't be covered up.
My boyfriend and I feel that his ex is right. Why cause unnecessary drama by referring to my manager as an ex boyfriend? Why complicate the situation? I feel that my manager is being territorial. Maybe he even suspects that the ex is ashamed to admit to her current girlfriend that she went out with him. lol
Thoughts?
My thoughts are that your friend should advise the young lady to be upfont with the new boyfriend well before the party, at home in private, that they are attending her ex's party.
If he still chooses to go (and there is no reason he shouldn't), at the party she should simply introduce them by name - "Brad this Bob, Bob meet Brad".
With all due respect I don't understand why this is a problem in the first place. First of all why should any explanation of any relationship be given at a simple birthday party? You introduce people to each other by name, period. No need to get into a long involved explanation of who knows who and from where, just a simple introduction.
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Agreed. And if I were the manager I wouldn't bother with telling anyone who she was either. Their relationship is/was their business alone. Not to mention it is finished so providing information about it now serves no purpose.
My thoughts are that your friend should advise the young lady to be upfont with the new boyfriend well before the party, at home in private, that they are attending her ex's party.
If he still chooses to go (and there is no reason he shouldn't), at the party she should simply introduce them by name - "Brad this Bob, Bob meet Brad".
I agree with loves mountains on this one, up front is always the answer, speaking of which, when will our own government be upfront with us?
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