do you get what you put in, in your marriage? (love, relations)

[callalillies]

Do you get a lot in return in your marriage? Or do you feel you give more and don't get much in return?

If you do get what you put in, what are some things you get that makes it all worthwhile?

[thebobs]

Originally Posted by callalillies

Do you get a lot in return in your marriage? Or do you feel you give more and don't get much in return?

If you do get what you put in, what are some things you get that makes it all worthwhile?

No, actually I accumulated 10,000 points months ago and I'm still waiting for my 40 inch HDTV from Samsung.

What really makes it worthwhile is when both of you put into it equally.

[bobman]

As Al bundy once said
“Insurance is like marriage. You pay, pay, pay, and you never get anything back.”

[dgfurman]

I definately get back what I put in. If I'm not putting in much, he does the same, and the relationship starts to go south. If I make more effort, so does he, and things are better.

[thebobs]

Originally Posted by bobman

As Al bundy once said
“Insurance is like marriage. You pay, pay, pay, and you never get anything back.”

LOL. Al Bundy. Gotta love that guy.

[SVTLightning]

Thats one of the things Dr. Phil said a few years ago when I watched that show a few times. he said something along the lines of :

Marriage is not 50/50. it is 100/100.

[seeniorita]

Not all the time. Then I slap him around a little and he gets back on track!

[beatlecrazy]

Yeah, I think I do. There are times when we're both frustrated with each other but generally we do a good job of it.

[NY Annie]

I get so much more than I put in. And he says the same thing. We don't look at it as 50/50 or 100/100. We each give more than half so at no time are we ever running at less than 100%. See, if I try to ALWAYS give 60 or 70%, and he does too, then when one of us has a down time and can't, there is plenty in reserve. We just went through a short time where he needed to draw - work pressures, anniversary of his infant son's death, etc. So he drew. I was more than happy to up my share of giving to get him/us over that time just as he has done in the past for me - and will do in the future. There's no resentment, we both feel we get back far more than we can ever put in.

There's no "i" or "me" in "us".

[Mayor_McCheese]

Marriage isn't your 401K