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There's a lot of good men out there. But all men ever hear is how women are attracted to thugs and badboys.
Because is somehow true: just look at your friends relationships - Real good guys tend to have a bitchy women, and good women get a guys who don't care about them. No???
Because is somehow true: just look at your friends relationships - Real good guys tend to have a bitchy women, and good women get a guys who don't care about them. No???
If a woman rants and raves about there being "no good men left", then the chances are that she is a good for nothing worthless woman herself. I don't give those type of women a second look, cos they aren't worth it at all.
If a woman rants and raves about there being "no good men left", then the chances are that she is a good for nothing worthless woman herself. I don't give those type of women a second look, cos they aren't worth it at all.
Dorrans,
I sort of agree with you. It's really amazing to hear guys and gals say that.
I meet really good folks daily in my life. I'm talking high quality single people.
There are millions of people on the planet, how can "all of the good one's" be taken? Not possible.
Well, I dont know if I'd be barking at ladies to go approach men like this..lol..
But I do agree that they should feel comfortable doing so...because lets not forget that those "good man" we speak so freely about DO like a woman with confidence in herself as well.
The confidence thing is a two way street...no need to bloviate about the lack of confidence in men if you dont have enough confidence to go for what you want either.
I'd love to go look for one, but before I do that I have to figure out a few things.
A fair share (about 25%) of guys I've dated have turned out to be extremely emotionally abusive and controlling. It seems to me that a larger percentage of these kinds of guys would still be single, rather than married, so that means I need better "radar" to spot these jerks before going out with them in the first place.
The sweetest, nicest guys I've dated have almost all had a serious lack of interest in sex for some reason. Sex was never really discussed at the beginning of the relationship, it was only when we actually got around to "doing it" that I realized we were incompatible. It would be nice to be able to tell whether a guy has a healthy libido before wasting time on a few months of dating.
Guys who seem to be "my type" generally don't like to be "chased" or "pursued". They want to be the ones doing the asking out, and making all the moves.
Right now I'm trying to get over the apparent loss of a friendship with a guy who I think is actually the "emotionally abusive" type I mentioned. After a three year relationship/friendship I'm dealing with the "silent treatment" which someone discussed in another thread. I don't think there's a valid reason for his sudden disappearance from my life, but I tend to blame myself anyway. I can't go out and be emotionally available for a new relationship if I'm trying to heal from a previous one, even if it was "just" a friendship and not a romantic relationship. The realization that he may be emotionally abusive doesn't seem to help get over this any faster.
I can't keep putting myself in situations that end up hurting me so bad.
I disagree. Good is subjective. The guy you may have passed up for not being good enough may settle with the next girl he meets, who thinks he's not only good but great.
I think the better question is - why do men and women have these sometimes unrealistic checklists on what's good for them? Not only have you completely narrowed your playing field, but how do you know if what's good for you today will be good for you 10 or 20 years from now?
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