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An abusive guy is a challenge, she will want to "change" him, and this conflict provides the drama she needs to maintain her interest in him. Otherwise she would get bored and miserable and leave a guy. Hence why nice guys fail with women, cannot hold on to them long, because they bore women with the lack of challenge.
*Barf!* Just threw up in my mouth. Always the same complaint, always the same cherade with you.
You are so pathetic, that not only you envy cold-hardened criminals for getting love letters from naiive women but you also envy abusive A-holes because you couldn't get any female attention! Oh my gosh! You don't have any sense of entitlement other than "I have no play, but I'm sooo jealous that jerks get the girl even if they are beating and raping them and the woman likes that drama so that means I'll never get one!" Every thread is the same whining formula, and you didn't even "try to be a jerk" so you can get attention from women, did you?
Ever notice that with the women thave have abusive relationships, the abusive relationships are ALWAYS the longest ones they have, and the decent guys they date, are the shortest relationships, and they wind up dumping him?
Of course the abusive relationship lasts a long time. The abuser needs time to make the person feel special and loved so when they start the abuse the other person will rationalize it and be conflicted about breaking things off. They'll remember all of the good times which will make it easier for them to accept the bad times.
Your other comment regarding relationships with 'decent' guys is just absurd. You need to be more than just a decent guy to keep a relationship going. Also, the gender roles can easily be reversed, not sure why you feel the need to define them like that.
Damn! I started a thread extremely similar to this one yesterday, & I got the same amount of hate & irritation dumped on me.
OK, this is what it boils down to: An abusive man will not completely evolve or change. There's something goin' on with him in the head that no counseling or rehab can totally mend. Therefore, the worn down excuse that the wives & girlfriends give of "I know he can change" is useless. If he has the coldness & the nonexistent selfcontrol in him to beat his so called "Lover," then he ain't gonna stop for her. One beating quickly turns to beatings on an every day basis.
Women have the choice to get up & hit the highway @ the first blow. Unfortunately, most of them believe him when he says "It'll never happen again." It always happens again, & from there he's got her hooked. Ladies, ya either get out while ya can or ya stick around 'til you need help to get out. You end up becoming addicted to the man. You end up excepting the beatings as just a part of him. Pretty soon you can't leave him yourself. I've seen it happen so many times that it's sad. But, thank God it's never happened to me.
Like a few posters wrote above, strong women don't get sucked in to abusive relationships. You could call me a strong woman. Every man who beat on me (quite a few men) never got past the first few blows. I put a pocket knife to his throat to scare him off of me, sprayed some pepperspray in his eyes, ran to the phone, called 911, & had a protective order put on him. I don't know, maybe it's just me. Maybe I've got a too hot temper, too short fuse, etc etc etc. But seriously, ain't every woman entitled to that control? I may be too damn easy to **** off, & I know I'm crazy. But @ least I've never had to say "My husband/boyfriend beats me."
To some up my response to this thread, women should have the nerve to leave outset 'stead of waitin' for the man to gain full ownership of her. If she sticks around holding on to the worthless hope that he'll change, which sadly most women do, she's just diggin' a hole for herself & no one else can be blamed but her.
Damn! I started a thread extremely similar to this one yesterday, & I got the same amount of hate & irritation dumped on me.
To some up my response to this thread, women should have the nerve to leave outset 'stead of waitin' for the man to gain full ownership of her. If she sticks around holding on to the worthless hope that he'll change, which sadly most women do, she's just diggin' a hole for herself & no one else can be blamed but her.
Jessie
You sound like my aunt. She never let's anyone forget that she can 'kick ass'.
'My way or the highway'. Yippee--aiia--kai--yay!!!
She also goes on and on and on about every slight or injustice that has occurred in her life. 'People are sorry'. Just about everyone except her.
I forget about whatever horrible things that has been done to me except when I need to make a point as to why some women are so stupid (no offence.) I don't act like I need pity. "Oh somebody baby me. I was abused." I could care less whether or not anybody feels bad for me because I's abused. I don't want 'em to feel bad for me, either. That's the last thing I want. I'm fine! I'm just saying that if women don't leave, they're in for a pretty bumpy road. The whole "I love him. He'll change" excuse is damn weak.
TakeAhike, your aunt must be a pretty amazing woman if you're comparing her to me. hahaha, Yippee--aiia--kai--yay!!! Thank you very much darlin!
YEEHAW!!!!! hahahahahahahahahahahaha, I LOVE Y'ALL!!!! YIPPEE--AIIA--KAI--YAY!!!
Don't worry, y'all. I ain't gonna deal with this issue anymore. It's obvious where you stand.
hahaha, Jessie Loves you!
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I gave my opinion. How else could I answer such a ridiculous question? What?
so you can get attention from women, did you?
