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Ok, I'll admit that I'm a paranoid person, but if I've been having regular contact with someone I'm dating and then I don't hear from them for a few days and they fail to respond to my communication attempts, I start to get really worried and think that something bad has happened to them. I'll check the local news to make sure they're not on it and will generally not be able to rest at all until I know they're ok. But it almost always turns out that the guy is just FLAKING. Am I the only one who does this??
Case in point, I'd been dating a guy for a couple of weeks- we'd been on like five dates. He had even brought me flowers on our last date- everything seemed cool. This is a guy who usually texts me every day without me texting him first. So anyways, the following night after the last date, I send him a text since he hadn't texted me, and he doesn't text back. I'm like, "Ok fine, maybe he's busy." Then, 24 more hours pass and I've heard nothing from him, which is unusual based on his behavior up until that point. So I send another text and I get nothing...
Ok, so at this point, I'm thinking maybe he's having phone issues, so I send him a short e-mail like an hour later saying that I'm just checking to make sure everything's ok. Then after about a half hour, I figure I'll just try giving him a call. So I get his voicemail and leave him a short message saying that I was a little worried about him since I hadn't heard from him in two days. Keep in mind that I pretty much NEVER call or e-mail this guy, so it's only gotten to this point because I'm genuinely concerned about him.
So a couple minutes after I leave the voicemail, he sends me a text message telling me that he's really busy with work, he needs space to think, and he'll call me later in the week. WTF? It only takes a second to send a text message saying "hello" or "Everything's fine, I'm just working", but he instead chose to ignore the two text messages I sent. He's never had a problem texting me in the past and had he responded to the first message I sent, I wouldn't have made subsequent efforts to check on him. So now I feel like an idiot for wasting my time worrying about a person who has decided for whatever reason that he no longer has time for me. Like I said, since he's been texting me EVERY DAY for the past few weeks, I felt it was out of character for him to just not make contact for two days or even respond to my texts so that's why I was worried about him, but in the future maybe I will just continue to think that they're lying stiff and cold somewhere and stop caring.
sweetheart, hate to say this..... but, needy much? Is the message you are sending........
You think so? It's not like I called him a gazillion times. I left ONE voicemail and I never usually call him at all. And the text messages were just random comments about the day, but he still should've acknowledged receiving them (like he normally would).
Ok, I'll admit that I'm a paranoid person, but if I've been having regular contact with someone I'm dating and then I don't hear from them for a few days and they fail to respond to my communication attempts, I start to get really worried and think that something bad has happened to them.
He-he, some motherly thinking!
Back in St. Olaf we have this saying - a guy should hope for what his wife thinks is going on to happen to him as opposed to what his mother is afraid of.
Nope, in 99.9999% of the cases the jerks are perfectly alive!
I would never even think to assume someone is dead if they don't respond to contact attempts. I just take it as they lost interest. I think you should of stopped after the email.
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He-he, some motherly thinking!
Back in St. Olaf we have this saying - a guy should hope for what his wife thinks is going on to happen to him as opposed to what his mother is afraid of.
Nope, in 99.9999% of the cases the jerks are perfectly alive!
Oh, i get it..i thought you meant "Is he dead..or faking" sigh, time to get the eyes checked..
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Am I the only one who does this??
sigh, time to get the eyes checked..
