Positive or Negative Experience?

[JSizzle225]

Oh you pessimists.

I'll tell you what I told my father when he said, "I'm sorry."

Me: What for?
Dad: Jamie.
Me: What about that?
Dad: That she hurt you.
Me: I'm not hurt. It sucks cuz I liked her but I don't let women destroy me.
Dad: Ok then that it didn't work out.
Me: I'm not going to marry every chick.
Dad: Quit being so damn stubborn. I'm sorry that I had you waste your time then.
Me: Hey I had fun, and she was a great person. I'm out of what, a couple of bucks that I would've wasted on beer anyway. You learn from everyone you meet. I hope whoever this dude is doesn't take advantage of her. You can tell her any of this if you want since I guess she ignores my texts now.

[RMD3819]

Originally Posted by Ep-

how did she use him? how long should she wait around for him to make a move? she gave him tons of time

She mentioned not wanting to be used for sex. She backed down when they could have kissed. She sent all these "friends only" vibes, at least that is how I interpreted it.

He takes the high road and pays for all these dates. He acts like a gentleman.

Then she sleeps with someone and begins dating him. She doesn't date the OP because she is sexually frustrated with him.

What???? She gives off all these no sex vibes and then uses that as the breakup excuse. The guy is not a mind reader.

Why didn't she initiate the sex?

[andreaspercheron]

Hmmm.... here is my take. You are probably right in assuming that she had a difficult life. Perhaps the men she met were very low class and only used her - which she allowed and in turn lowered her self esteem.
She's a single Mom too.
To be perfectly honest, I think she saw a free ride with you and maybe took advantage a little bit not through asking for things because you were obviously very generous.
My opinion is that the only thing you did wrong was not treat her like every other guy that comes along and just use her and leave. I think unfortunately she's used to that and when you didn't make it obvious she got confused and resorted back to what she knows.
I think in her case, she is only ever going to know guys like "that" because she puts herself in situations where it's going to happen. Try finding a girl who isn't so down on herself.

[M3 Mitch]

Dude, honestly, you could have seen her to be damaged goods from the get go. Why start a relationship with a low-income unwed mother? Even if she is good-looking.

She didn't get into that configuration by exercising Sun Tzu like strategic thinking.

Pretty is only skin deep, but stupid goes all the way to the bone.

[Ep-]

Originally Posted by RMD3819

She mentioned not wanting to be used for sex. She backed down when they could have kissed. She sent all these "friends only" vibes, at least that is how I interpreted it.

He takes the high road and pays for all these dates. He acts like a gentleman.

Then she sleeps with someone and begins dating him. She doesn't date the OP because she is sexually frustrated with him.

What???? She gives off all these no sex vibes and then uses that as the breakup excuse. The guy is not a mind reader.

Why didn't she initiate the sex?

she leaned in but got shy. thats still the opening he should have took. most girls are gonna expect a guy to make a move thats just the way it is. cant wait for girl to initiate