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Should I finish with him ? I love him to bits though , should I let this put me off?
Maybe you should find out more about how much he's into this particular drug and if he's also into other illegal substances. I know that both of my nephews have tried it and they're not major drug users so it all depends on the total picture. If it turns out that he's into all sorts of other drugs but just hasn't mentioned it before I would end the relationship. Hopefully that's not the case.
I think if someone is asking you to do drugs with them it's not a good thing and obviously now you know he does drugs. A drug is a drug, doesn't matter how "harmless" or good it is. Are you into using drugs? If you answered no then I think you know what you need to do.
I'd tell him that I'm not interested and that frankly, the fact that he does use is a big turn off to you and would make you not want to be with him - that is if you don't like drugs.
If you don't have a problem with it (which is obvious) since you actually solicited others' ideas, then maybe you should do it with him.
First ask yourself how you honestly feel though.
Should I finish with him ? I love him to bits though , should I let this put me off?
Well, only you can answer that.
If you want my perspective, I would probably date someone who:
A) was absolutely certain about what they were getting (ecstasy typically is a cocktail of drugs, not pure MDMA)
B) used it roughly once every two years, MAYBE.
C) did not take any other, similar recreational drugs
D) took it in a controlled environment, or on a special occasion
E) could go for at least 1 year without using it again, or using a similar substance (obviously, this would require me to be acquainted with the person for a minimum of 1 year).
F) Did not take it in conjunction with other drugs
So in other words, I doubt such a person even exists, but "never say never".
If you just met the dude, yeah, I'd say that's a huge red flag.
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Don't do it. Ex is a trashy, burn-out drug for people who have not yet realized that techno-music or live jam-band shows suck (unless it's Allman Bros). If you have never done ecstasy, DO NOT START! DO NOT START! He wants to feel better about his own choices by convincing other people to crawl down in the gutter with him.
I wouldn't have a problem with someone who tipples here-and-there or enjoys tobacco or even if that person unwound with some grass now-and-again (beyond concern that I'll get pulled over at some point with this person in my car while he/she is carrying more than he/she can eat), but there is a line crossed at hallucinogens*.
Yes, let it put you off. He's telling you that he's unreliable.
*Yes, ecstasy has hallucinogenic properties. Monkeys trained to ring a bell when they feel the influence of hallucinogens indicate strongly when dosed with ecstasy. Interestingly, monkeys trained to do the same when they feel the influence of amphetamines also indicate strongly when dosed with ecstasy.
I don't see it as being a big deal, I do it every now and then.
You'd be surprised to know how many people you know have probably taken it.
BTW it's not highly addictive.
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