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No. I'm especially familiar with mid-life issues and the cheating isn't about sex as much as it is about a general dissatisfaction with life and looking for something/someone to make things better. Many people have emotional affairs (ie: the soul mate excuse) that don't involve sex but are just as distructive to a relationship.
You don't know me but let me tell you that I live in this fairyland where food is plenty and people are simply saints. When we need something, just say the name, it appears magically in front of us. No worry, no evil, just happily ever after.
I tell you, it's just beautiful, beautiful!!!
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I acknowledged that you said 'given the right conditions'
Ummm.. I am one of the most 'real' people you would ever meet. I don't close my eyes and pretend that problems don't exist. I have had many, many problems in my life...some that I've even created on my own. I have been involved with men who HAVE cheated on ME...I did not do the same to them just to get back. I would never cheat on anyone, no matter what. Some people do have a level of morality about them. And yes, it does come down to morals and what is right vs. wrong.
I fully believe in karma, and the fact that it comes and bites you in your big A$$ when and if you need it.
My husband and I have something beautiful, wonderful, and very intimate. We are extremely close, and extremely attracted to each other. We are very much in love. We have an out-of-this world sex life.. My husband talks about me being his soul mate as much as I do. Cheating is just simply not an issue that we worry about. I'm sure there are many people on this forum that feel the same way about their SO's.
I live in Utah, and I see people all over this state that are closed off to reality (work with a few, extremely frustrating). It is it's own bubble. But, I am not, nor have I ever been one of those that 'put the blinders on'. I've lived a lot of life in my 40+ years already, with more lessons to be learned no doubt.
And what is your point in saying this: On the other hand, if someone comes out and tells you that they would never cheat, you'd better think hard about your relationship.
I've told my partners that I never would, and I never have. It truly is as simple as that for me. I can't speak for anyone else, but I know that while I may have other ways that my behaviour has been questionable, cheating has never been one of them, and will never be.
I'm sorry for you that you are so negative about human behaviour in general, and it sounds like you have many trust issues. I could, given my past relationships. But, I believe in the good in my husband, and in most people. There are those that I am wary of, but I think I have a pretty good antennae for the players vs. real people.
Not a human with whom I would want to be involved. Just because you think it's okay to cheat, doesn't mean "everybody cheats."
Sir/Madam, not only are you being judgmental, but you put words in my mouth - I never said it's "okay" to cheat.
One day, when you become more mature, you will realize nothing in this world is black and white. The favorite color is grey.
We all set off to find happiness. In many relationships, cheating is probably the only happy thing one can find. Sad? Yes, but it's just reality. On the other hand, cheating is the motivation for many to get out of their own relationships.
Um, when did I say it was all his fault Don't put words in my mouth, and don't comment on things you know nothing about
I never said that either. :-)
You made the claim that you gave him all the sex and he still cheated, but do you know that cheating is NEVER about sex?
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I have had many, many problems in my life...some that I've even created on my own. I have been involved with men who HAVE cheated on ME...I did not do the same to them just to get back. I would never cheat on anyone, no matter what. 
Some people do have a level of morality about them. And yes, it does come down to morals and what is right vs. wrong.
