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Count me among the 1% that it hasn't happened to, and no I'm not a liar or inexperienced. I've never had this problem when it came time to perform. It may be common, but I wouldn't say it's happened to 99% of men.
Yes % is probably too high, but you get my point it happens to alot of men.
Yes % is probably too high, but you get my point it happens to alot of men.
I talked to my best male friend. Apparently it happened to him a couple separate times with one particular female before they finally got going. I felt a little better hearing that. Finally, I spoke to my girl last night and we had a long discussion about it. It pretty much resulted in the manner I thought it would. Now, she's second guessing herself, wondering how physical she should be around me. It is understandable, but disappointing no less. Work with me. I dont have any health issue. I don't need to see a doctor. I was horny last week, I will be next week, it was just this situation and everything attached to it that made me, well, limp. I dont think she thinks its worth it to work with me, and maybe be a little patient. I dont see episodes like this happening often. I feel like the worst has passed. The worst thing that could possibly happen thus far did. I just wish she would not be so easily ready to run away.
I've apologized to her for frustrating her. I truly understand how that feels and it wasnt my intention. I could have used a little more sympathy and I think its fair for me to want that.
Count me among the 1% that it hasn't happened to, and no I'm not a liar or inexperienced. I've never had this problem when it came time to perform. It may be common, but I wouldn't say it's happened to 99% of men.
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Sounds like it could be a classic case of performance anxiety. The best thing to do is for neither party to make a big issue of it. If it persists, I'd suggest seeing a doctor. But I wouldn't worry just yet. Women can say for months on end they're not in the mood, but if a man can't, as you say, rise to the ocassion, it's nearly front page news. Why?
I find I need to be relaxed. If I get nervous it will be sometime. if someone I'm with decides we are down for the count we likely are. all things can change. and if two people relax and get into pleasing the other things can happen. This woman sounds like a beotch... putting her clothes on.. wow how seductive... maybe your body knows something your head doesn't? IF she is this way about an intimate interaction how much better is she in day to day? sounds like one I'd avoid. ... Next!
I talked to my best male friend. Apparently it happened to him a couple separate times with one particular female before they finally got going. I felt a little better hearing that. Finally, I spoke to my girl last night and we had a long discussion about it. It pretty much resulted in the manner I thought it would. Now, she's second guessing herself, wondering how physical she should be around me. It is understandable, but disappointing no less. Work with me. I dont have any health issue. I don't need to see a doctor. I was horny last week, I will be next week, it was just this situation and everything attached to it that made me, well, limp. I dont think she thinks its worth it to work with me, and maybe be a little patient. I dont see episodes like this happening often. I feel like the worst has passed. The worst thing that could possibly happen thus far did. I just wish she would not be so easily ready to run away.
I've apologized to her for frustrating her. I truly understand how that feels and it wasnt my intention. I could have used a little more sympathy and I think its fair for me to want that.
So is this the first time it's happened to you or has it happened with other women? If it's only with her, perhaps you're just very nervous around this particular girl and you are so worried about pleasing her that the performance-anxiety is preventing you from maintaining an erection.
Don't obsess over this past embarassment you're feeling. Otherwise you may never recover with her and it may carry over in other relationships if you fear it will happen again. Relax and enjoy it, make it about YOU, and your enjoyment and that may help you rise to the occasion.
HA! Nah, I think my hormones are just in overdrive all the time that's all.
I just don't think it's as common as suggested. At least not with guys in their 20's. If it persists then it needs to be addressed with a visit to the doc to determine if it's physical or mental.
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