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My ex wife moved out in Oct. 2008. She took a good amount of her stuff but there are still too many things of hers clanking around the house: A pasta machine, her bicycle, a vanity / makeup table, etc. Over Christmas, I asked her to come get it all and she said she would come up with her brothers van and take it all. Never happened. Then again she said she'd be coming to get it with her boyfriend about a month or so ago, never happened. I have continuously brought her stuff I can take in my car when we trade off the dog every other weekend: skis or whatever else she never got around to moving. She is a procrastinator par excellence, one of the reasons we are no longer married, among many. Here is my question: I want rid of her stuff. I think at this point I am completely justified in either selling it or taking it to the dump. But I no longer want to be a storage bin for her belongings. Since she has not been inclined to deal with it herself and I believe possession is 90% of the law, is this the moral and ethical thing to do at this point?
The other option is for me to just truck it into Boston myself and leave it at the entry to her house. Or be the chump I am and ask her AGAIN to come get it.
Either way, I want the stuff out of here and can't rely on her to do it. She was Miss Unreliable back then and still is and always will be.
My ex wife moved out in Oct. 2008. She took a good amount of her stuff but there are still too many things of hers clanking around the house: A pasta machine, her bicycle, a vanity / makeup table, etc. Over Christmas, I asked her to come get it all and she said she would come up with her brothers van and take it all. Never happened. Then again she said she'd be coming to get it with her boyfriend about a month or so ago, never happened. I have continuously brought her stuff I can take in my car when we trade off the dog every other weekend: skis or whatever else she never got around to moving. She is a procrastinator par excellence, one of the reasons we are no longer married, among many. Here is my question: I want rid of her stuff. I think at this point I am completely justified in either selling it or taking it to the dump. But I no longer want to be a storage bin for her belongings. Since she has not been inclined to deal with it herself and I believe possession is 90% of the law, is this the moral and ethical thing to do at this point?
The other option is for me to just truck it into Boston myself and leave it at the entry to her house. Or be the chump I am and ask her AGAIN to come get it.
Either way, I want the stuff out of here and can't rely on her to do it. She was Miss Unreliable back then and still is and always will be.
Tell her she has 48 hours, or you're going to be selling it on EBay and pocketing the proceeds.
I went through this with my ex. I gave him a week to come get everything (he was in a different state). He took some things, left a bunch. I was selling the house so there was no way I'd hang on to his stuff. I put an ad on Craigs List: Free tools and household items and had everything cleared out within a day.
I don't know whether I ran afoul of any laws though, so you might check into that. You should not be held hostage by her stuff forever.
Put it in writing that you are giving her X amount of time to get the stuff and send it certified mail. This way you've covered your rear end. Keep a copy for yourself.
Going through the exact same thing with me ex. I have on her for two months. It is really starting to annoy me.
If the divorce is finalized I'd sell it and keep the money. She wanted me to haul it to the dump, I refused. I thought for half a second about dumping in front of her apartment on the lawn, or her work. I thought better of that.
Get it in writing whatever you do. I document, document, document her contacts with me. And every time she came into the house after she left. It doesn't look good for her case.
In some states, if your ex leaves their property in your home after vacating it (generally, the day she gives up her set of keys), it becomes your property due to abandonment on her part and you can do what you like. I think it's 30 days in a lot of cases, but I'd check with your local police station. If she moved out in 2008, it's probably considered yours now and you can do what you want. Think about it this way, if you move into a new apartment and the previous tenants left a chair, you can do what you like with it and they can't say anything. She was a previous tenant and had a reasonable amount of time. It's her fault if she doesn't take advantage of it.
As a courtesy (and to not antagonize her too much if you have a dog together), I'd set a date and time they need to be out by or you will throw them away. Then stick to it.
I am going to email her and say she has a week to deal with it or forfeit it all. Then it goes either on Craigslist or to the dump - whatever I decide.
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Thats exactly what I say. 
