Amazingly bizarre behavior! (date, women, older, attractive)

[cuinlalaland]

This is a follow up to my last post about the 25 year old girl who seemed to be the nicest person I'd ever met a couple of months ago.

So it's been a few days and I've gotten over the total shock at her behavior last week. I've had a bit of time to reflect and look at things objectively and I've come to the conclusion that she's insane I don't know what specific personality disorder fits the bill, but she is a radically different person from the one I met and was interested in as recently as the middle of March.

For the record she's gone from going way out of her way to be with me and rubbing up on me, to trying her best not to be in the same room when we're all together with friends.

Before anyone asks, of course I wondered if I said or did something to freak her out. Besides the fact that nothing like this has happened to me before, I certainly can't think of anything that could possibly explain a complete 180 in her behavior. But just to be sure I talked to one of her closest friends and she assured me not to take it personally, apparently she has some huge issues with men in general.

Wish I'd known that a little sooner

All I can say is thank god that train wreck veered away from me at the last second

[Redisca]

Since you didn't post a link to your earlier story, I can't see the details. For what it's worth, I don't think it's "amazingly bizarre behavior" for a woman to realize, after the initial good impression has worn off, that a particular man isn't right for her. Particularly if he is considerably older than she is. When it hits, the generational gap is much more apparent to the young than to the old.

As for doing something to freak her out -- it's not so much about freaking people out as turning them off. Sometimes a seemingly innocuous comment may reveal something about a person that will be a total deal breaker. I don't know (*shrug*), may be it was that "Plaza Athénée" comment, or something similar.

[cuinlalaland]

If only all psychos were so easily dissuaded

[2RUGGED4YOU]

Originally Posted by cuinlalaland

If only all psychos were so easily dissuaded

That's true and I'm glad I am not the only one. Sorry man!

[Redisca]

Originally Posted by cuinlalaland

If only all psychos were so easily dissuaded

I am confused. First, she was a "psycho" because she wouldn't date you, now she is a "psycho" because she wouldn't leave you alone fast enough? Doesn't make much sense.

What makes the "Plaza Athénée" comment "dissuasive" isn't that you would never do anything with a woman that requires an expenditure of more than $50, but the sheer, undiluted snobbery of it. Dropping hints about how supposedly rich you are, while keeping your occupation a secret on the ground that it might attract a "gold-digger". The whole name-dropping, which is exceedingly unattractive. The fact that what you are saying with that comment is: "I am so rich and sophisticated, I stay at posh hotels and go to Michelin three-star restaurants in Paris, and boy oh boy aren't you impressed I use accent aigu. But of course, you can never go with me to one of those places because I don't actually have any mon... what I mean is, that would just be too good for you. I don't intend to spend any money on you, but it's important to me that you feel inferior and fortunate that a classy guy like me deigns to take you to Pizza Hut. Also, since I believe all women are gold-diggers anyway, with the difference that you are not yet jaded (read: stupid as a box of nails) I want to dangle my non-existent money in front of you to make you salivate." I would have thought it's obvious, but apparently, it had to be spelled out.

[STT Resident]

OP: I know absolutely nothing about you and don't remember your threads or posts but it really is a little presumptuous to start off a thread by referring to a previous thread on the assumption that the reader should immediately know what you're talking about.

[sophialee]

She's a psycho for those two reasons? Oh well, on to the 18 year old then I guess!

[cuinlalaland]

Here's the previous post, sorry for not linking to it.
//www.city-data.com/forum/relat...-ice-cold.html

Redisca, why do you mistake all of my comments?
1. The one about Plaza Athénée was a joke meant to highlight a possible way to identify gold-diggers.
2. Since she has turned out to be psycho, I'm glad she is turned off by me. She's not psycho because she's turned off by me.
3. What makes you think I drop hints about how 'rich I supposedly am' or that I keep my occupation a secret? Oh is it because I haven't posted it in my profile here?

sophialee, no I still don't think the 18 year old would work out for a relationship...then again I so badly misjudged the 25 year old, what do I know? At least I can count on the 18 year old for a good time, she's always friendly and a lot of fun.

[sophialee]

Originally Posted by cuinlalaland

Here's the previous post, sorry for not linking to it.
//www.city-data.com/forum/relat...-ice-cold.html

Redisca, why do you mistake all of my comments?
1. The one about Plaza Athénée was a joke meant to highlight a possible way to identify gold-diggers.
2. Since she has turned out to be psycho, I'm glad she is turned off by me. She's not psycho because she's turned off by me.
3. What makes you think I drip hints about how 'rich I supposedly am' or that I keep my occupation a secret? Oh is it because I haven't posted it in my profile here?

sophialee, no I still don't think the 18 year old would work out for a relationship...then again I so badly misjudged the 25 year old, what do I know? At least I can count on the 18 year old for a good time, she's always friendly and a lot of fun.

I'm still not understanding, from this thread or the one posted above, what exactly she did to be deemed "psycho". Need more details.

[MissLucky]

Something must have turned her off. There has to be something.