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yeah, that's great, so that solves everything. that makes it okay to hurt someone who loves you. well maybe a woman would like to go sleep with someone else because her husband is addicted to porn and neglecting her. is he going be okay with that? why can't she say, "hey I just like other men." what's the difference? men are getting off to an image of another woman, wishing they could sleep with that woman, and if that woman was in the room with them, then they probably would.
Well, sounds like you have a child on your hands. A worthy husband would not have his eyes glued to a damn video game while his wife is walking by him naked and starved for sex. Sounds like a "Come to Jesus" meeting is in order.
I totally agree with you. I could also (and I have) walked completely naked in front of my husband, and nothing...and I am not a bad looking lady. sad...
well thats the thing i offer sex everyday at some point in different ways some more subtle than others if i couldreally have it my way id have sex with twice a day it is him who turns me down.... so what to do about that..A woman can only be turned down so much before she gives up on him keep in mind were not too old were only 24
I am in the same boat as you. I would have sex all the time with him, if he wouldn't constantly reject me. we have sex maybe once a week, or sometimes every two weeks. at one point in our marriage, we didn't have sex for two months! and it's not like I've let myself go. I am a nice looking woman who's had plenty of chances with other guys. I think he has a porn addiction, and I am ready to leave him.
The thing about guys is, they want to have sex with chicks they haven't had sex with no matter how hot you are. I think that's just nature... oh and they like porn. Maybe you should try some nastier stuff.
If you say that you've offered to watch it with him or stated that you'd just rather he be honest and admit to you that he watches it or has pornographic material around rather than hiding it, it could be a couple of things. It could be that, for him, having you, his real life mate attached to his real life world, included in the experience removes the fantasy aspect from it. So it may just not be as enjoyable to him with you in the picture.
It could also be him sensing that you'd rather he not be watching porn to begin with. People don't generally enjoy sharing things they like with someone when they feel like that person will just be silently judging or disapproving of them the entire time. It stifles their enjoyment of it. Picture watching your favorite movie of all time with a friend you know absolutely hates it. You can already picture all of the faces they'll be making or snarky little remarks or questions they'll be asking that are less out of curiosity and more to make a point about how stupid it is.
I think the healthiest thing for you would be to sit down and ask him about the porn he likes and why and do it without shaming or making him feel guilty. For example, don't say things like, "Why am I not enough?" Because that's a very common misconception a lot of women have, that men only watch porn because their mate is fundamentally inadequate in some way.
Not to simplify it because there are a lot of psychological components when porn is involved but at its most basic, it would be like believing that someone only watches Food Network because the food you make for them isn't good enough. Point being, for your own peace of mind, stop making his porn about you and your worth to him and the value of your relationship.
The only thing that needs to be addressed is his continued need to hide it from you. Start there and see where it goes. Old post, sure, but since it was brought back from the dead, hey lol
Attempting to maintain some kind of monopoly on his orgasms is not practical and it is emotionally immature on your part.
Even if you took away all of his porn and locked him in an 8 x 10' cell, he would still at some point find the urge to masturbate and there would be at least an 90% chance that he wasn't thinking about you when he did it.
By trying to have him suppress his interest in porn as well as attempting to make him feel guilty for it: You are being an emotional and psychological terrorist.
Fish swim, birds fly, men watch porn.
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