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There is always a reason for a complete cut off, the people are just not telling you. It could be something they imagined or something you did that upset them and they decided they do not have the courage to tell you so they cut you off. If you look at it long enough, you will be able to figure it out.
I had a friend that I have known for over 15 years. She and I love to write and would send long emails to each other about whatever we had going on. We wrote at least every other day. We joked it was like reading little books. She was single for most of the years we were friends. She had some bad relationships and did not want any men in her life. Well a few years ago, she was ready to get back into the dating world. I supported her on this. I felt she deserved to find someone. She started online dating and became completely obsessed with it. She refused to join anything legit and ended up on a lot of free sites. She would ask me constantly what I thought of whomever she was talking to. Some of the guys seemed okay and others were obviously scam artists. She has lost thousands of dollars because she falls for the scams every time. I would give my opinion cuz she asked and she would ignore it, lose money realize I was right and it would upset her. She never really said I upset her but I could tell by her huffy tone she was getting tired of me being right. The emails slowed and it got to the point where a month would go by with no response. So finally I sent her an email asking her flat out if I upset her. She waited months to reply to me and when she did, she apologized and said she had lost my email address. Okay I have had the same email for over 6 yrs. My email is also my name, pretty hard to forget and we wrote almost every day for years. We now talk about twice a year over facebook. She will make a comment on my page about a photo I post or something like that. I don't know why she bothers.
People always have a reason, they just don't always tell.
It happens. Of course there's always a reason, but we're not always entitled to it. It would be nice to know why someone suddenly cuts you off, but I think in most cases if you think hard enough you're able to figure it out for yourself. It's their prerogative to cut you out of their life, and in a perfect world they'd be mature enough to discuss what's eating at them. If they can't do that, then I guess they weren't as close as we initially thought. Adiós!
The silent treatment is abusive no matter who it's coming from.
Must disagree. If a person doesn't have anything postivie or constructive to say to me, or even if they've simply come to the conclusion that my personality does not mesh with theirs, I would prefer the silent treatment. It just means it is time to move on, not all relationships are meant to last forever. Far more abusive to pick at the scab than to let things go.
Must disagree. If a person doesn't have anything postivie or constructive to say to me, or even if they've simply come to the conclusion that my personality does not mesh with theirs, I would prefer the silent treatment. It just means it is time to move on, not all relationships are meant to last forever. Far more abusive to pick at the scab than to let things go.
It's abusive if it follows a pattern of other forms of emotional abuse by the perpetrator. Most people don't just up and cut someone off, it follows a pattern of other behaviors.
It's abusive if it follows a pattern of other forms of emotional abuse by the perpetrator. Most people don't just up and cut someone off, it follows a pattern of other behaviors.
Well now you're talking about more than the silent treatment per se, yes?
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Must disagree. If a person doesn't have anything postivie or constructive to say to me, or even if they've simply come to the conclusion that my personality does not mesh with theirs, I would prefer the silent treatment. It just means it is time to move on, not all relationships are meant to last forever. Far more abusive to pick at the scab than to let things go.
Yeah, my comment was a bit blanketed. There are always exceptions.
Well now you're talking about more than the silent treatment per se, yes?
Yes.
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