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Those heavy "make-out sessions" are what created the soul tie. If you want to loosen it say this. "I choose as an act of my will to loosen from my soul all things of sin and darkness. I choose to loosen from my soul every unholy soul tie and I call back into my being all the layers and pieces of my soul that I gave away to something or someone and I become whole right now in the name of Jesus" And it will leave you just like that.
OP do you mean soul mate, as it does not appear to be a bilateral union ?
No, it's no a soulmate type of dynamic. I'm fully aware of the fact that this man is not my soulmate. I'm not that oblivious ha!
The problem is this unhealthy attachment which I am so willing to get rid of but something just blocks me from moving on. I know this man is not the right one, I know he used me to fulfill his needs, I know I need to forget about him and move on, and believe me, I'm trying really hard.
A soul tie (in short):
"A spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in sexual intercourse. To the point that when you want to be rid of them from your mind and your life, even when you are far away from them and out of their presence you still feel as if they are apart of you causing you to feel unwhole, as if you've given up some of yourself untangible that cannot be easily possessed again."
No, it's no a soulmate type of dynamic. I'm fully aware of the fact that this man is not my soulmate. I'm not that oblivious ha!
The problem is this unhealthy attachment which I am so willing to get rid of but something just blocks me from moving on. I know this man is not the right one, I know he used me to fulfill his needs, I know I need to forget about him and move on, and believe me, I'm trying really hard.
A soul tie (in short):
"A spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in sexual intercourse. To the point that when you want to be rid of them from your mind and your life, even when you are far away from them and out of their presence you still feel as if they are apart of you causing you to feel unwhole, as if you've given up some of yourself untangible that cannot be easily possessed again."
Sounds kind of like a PG-rated succubus. Ish.
In any event, belief is powerful. Strongly-held beliefs even more so.
I suggest you consider the possibility that there is no such thing as a soul tie, as defined above. Think hard on it.
I hope in time, your belief in it weakens and dissipates. When that begins to happen, you'll gradually feel stronger within and about yourself.
You're worth much more than a relationship with a user. Believe that.
Soul ties are uniformly one-sided . . . as this one clearly is. They have nothing to do with soul mates. There are things in your character and needs that are appealed to by this person . . . they are not necessarily positive or good. The likelihood of a lasting relationship is slim to none. Try to learn what there is about this person that could possibly appeal to you and why . . . and then move on.
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Originally Posted by LostinPhilly
A soul tie is not a soulmate people! It's not about him being the one. It's an unhealthy attachment to someone. For those of you who are not religious, I guess you probably never heard of this.
If you do not know what a soul tie is, please refrain from responding. This is in no way shape or form assimilated to a soulmate, it's very different.
I do believe that is essentially what I said. The color red is reserved for moderator use.
This type of person objectifies women, it is not just you, he will continue this or be like this the rest of his life and one day will wake up and realize what a void it is..
You on the other hand need to get your emotions in check as certain men will tell you what they want you to hear to get what they want.
Wise up you are in control, just say no, tell him I need to take it slower. If he does or can't wait it is time to move on to another relationship.
I have. It comes from the charismatic world. A "soul tie" is a way in which one opens one's self to unhealthy attachments to people which then becomes a compulsive snare. I have seen the concept extended from relationships to people, into relationships to unapproved activities or ideas, such that one is rendered helpless with compulsions in that area.
It is basically an attempt to set up the thinking of a person with "besetting sins" to think they need some sort of cleansing ritual or intercession to "break" the "tie". Sometimes believing that some spiritual chains have been severed, can provide an emotional catharsis for a person to feel subjectively freed from certain compulsions.
Unless I misunderstand the OP, they fear that they have become thusly entangled or snared in a "soul tie" such that they need to "break" it.
Here is my "serious" advice, independent of my beliefs about soul ties: just pray to have it broken. If it's not really a "soul tie" then no harm done, right? Clearly this is really about letting go and moving on vs holding onto the notion of "one true love".
My probably worthless relationship advice, also independent of my beliefs: this is simply two people strongly attracted to each other but with different theistic and moral beliefs. The OP's belief in the importance of sexual chastity runs afoul of the paramour's belief that he has been given mixed signals and rejected because sex did not result soon enough in the relationship. Nothing more mysterious than that. If the OP really believes in remaining a virgin until marriage then her only options are to openly discuss that with romantic partners and to avoid those (like this guy she's attracted to) who are not strongly like-minded. Also my observation is that both partners are very immature socially and emotionally because they would rather second guess each other's motives and meanings and/or mysteriously break off the relationship rather than simply talk.
Typical young love with all the associated emotional angst.
I'm wondering if this was posting in the Religion and Spirituality forum to get Spiritual advice, or if it might have generated a different kind of response in the Relationship forum. OP, why shouldn't it be moved?
Soul Tie is a religious notion, not a secular one. That's the reason why I posted the thread in the "Religion" section.
My question was based on religious grounds, not relationship ones.
I declined sex on the second date because it was too early in the "dating" process, not because I want to remain a virgin until marriage otherwise would give the person notice of that. I've since changed my mind but it does not mean I want to have sex after two dates especially considering the fact he and I didn't speak for months. I was wary of his intentions and the reason why he suddenly showed interest in me when he couldn't even bring himself to set up a date with me initially.
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