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Originally Posted by Annie3
My brother and his family will be coming into town this weekend, and we (me and children) will be expected to visit. I am beginning to have second thoughts and am not sure I want to go, but I can't really talk to anyone in the family about it. The idea of having my kids around him makes me very uneasy, but it will also be a short visit. Suggestions?
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If you can muster up the courage to go and do an obligatory visit with the kids, and it's not a major inconvenience- do it. It'll probably be fine and, honestly, it'll make things that much easier if you want to blow him off another time. He's in town so I'm assuming it's not much of an inconvenience, so give him the benefit of the doubt as per a normal family visit- and as well give him enough rope to hang himself with, so to speak- let's just hope that's not what happens! Of course I would make sure that you yourself supervise your kids, but I certainly would just show up and hope for the best. Should your brother bring up inappropriate topics of discussion around your kids (and I hope he would at least have the sense not to do that), then you just scoop them up and say you have to leave and that's that. And if he brings up anything geared specifically towards you that you find at all inappropriate, or anything of a serious enough matter that you simply do not agree with- same thing, do the "gotta go" thing and split. This isn't a big battle this time- just try out the visit and this will help you guage how to deal with him, and probably the rest of your family, in the future.
Good luck, and let us know how it turns out!
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