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I suspect that most of the replies will be from people who feel great, or at least try to tell us they feel great. (It is similar to the trend where no one will admit they look 60, when they are 60. (Most people SAY they look and feel younger than their real age.) I admit, I am 59 and feel and look every day of 59, and more!
Being old is not a choice. But ACTING OLD is 100% a choice. You could go to your grave "functionally young" if you keep up with the world, exercise a lot, keep your sense of humor sharp, and establish a personal comfort level with the fact you are going to die soon, and every day should be spent in an energetic and youthful way, even if you are sick and tired and old.
A lot of the depression that surrounds getting older would disappear if you make a personal decision to be young at all points on the timeline. And there are people with cancer that do this, so I don't want to hear excuses.
Being old is not a choice. But ACTING OLD is 100% a choice. You could go to your grave "functionally young" if you keep up with the world, exercise a lot, keep your sense of humor sharp, and establish a personal comfort level with the fact you are going to die soon, and every day should be spent in an energetic and youthful way, even if you are sick and tired and old.
A lot of the depression that surrounds getting older would disappear if you make a personal decision to be young at all points on the timeline. And there are people with cancer that do this, so I don't want to hear excuses.
*Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming - "WOW, What a ride!"
Congratulations! Your story illustrates what I had in mind when I wrote that a lot of what people commonly consider "normal" aging is not really aging at all but rather a result of letting ourselves go. You have demonstrated exemplary motivation and self-discipline. Care to share with us, in brief, how you accomplished what you did, especially how you started out? Obviously at the beginning, 100 pounds overweight, you didn't start out on day one by running five miles at a brisk running pace! LOL Did you begin by walking for the cardio part?
I don't want to hijack the OP's thread, but briefly, I am not a gym rat, it took several months to get enough weight off to make a difference. Once I could walk a decent distance, maybe a mile, I began making it a regular habit and it builds from there. I also have the full support of my dear wife, she pushes me when I need it and we enjoy our walks together. Before you know it, you're saying, "hey I feel really good" and that motivates me to keep at it because I know the alternative too well.
My joints are not that great, especially knees, at 67. I feel pretty good otherwise, and I found the magic bullet for me is Diclofenac, (one of the anti-inflammatories) once a day.
If things go as usual, since everything I like gets discontinued, soon they'll decide to stop making it, probably.
From most of the postings here, I gather that the "how do you feel?" topic is mainly regarding health, etc.
I have a different thing to talk about. I am feeling discouraged and disappointed. I am 73, single retired female, live in central NY, and wanting to move to NC, specifically the Winston-Salem area. I unfortunately do not have a large retirement income; however, I do have some large bills that need to be paid every month. I will be free of two of them in a little over four years. In looking for apartments, I am finding it just about impossible to find one that I can afford and feel safe and happy about. I have been in W-S to check out apts., but in looking at the ratings on line, most of them are really bad. I have a nice apt. here and don't really want to get something awful.
My limit for rent is $600 which is apparently not enough to find a "good" apartment.
So after talking about this "move" since January, now it's almost June 1. My lease is up end of August.
From most of the postings here, I gather that the "how do you feel?" topic is mainly regarding health, etc.
I have a different thing to talk about. I am feeling discouraged and disappointed. I am 73, single retired female, live in central NY, and wanting to move to NC, specifically the Winston-Salem area. I unfortunately do not have a large retirement income; however, I do have some large bills that need to be paid every month. I will be free of two of them in a little over four years. In looking for apartments, I am finding it just about impossible to find one that I can afford and feel safe and happy about. I have been in W-S to check out apts., but in looking at the ratings on line, most of them are really bad. I have a nice apt. here and don't really want to get something awful.
My limit for rent is $600 which is apparently not enough to find a "good" apartment.
So after talking about this "move" since January, now it's almost June 1. My lease is up end of August.
That's how I am feeling.
Why Winston Salem? Do you have friends or family there? Perhaps they have some kind of subsidized housing there? Maybe get in touch with a Senior Agency and ask about it.
In general, I find the south to be a fairly economical place to live. If you venture out from the city a bit, the prices might get cheaper.
From most of the postings here, I gather that the "how do you feel?" topic is mainly regarding health, etc.
I have a different thing to talk about. I am feeling discouraged and disappointed. I am 73, single retired female, live in central NY, and wanting to move to NC, specifically the Winston-Salem area. I unfortunately do not have a large retirement income; however, I do have some large bills that need to be paid every month. I will be free of two of them in a little over four years. In looking for apartments, I am finding it just about impossible to find one that I can afford and feel safe and happy about. I have been in W-S to check out apts., but in looking at the ratings on line, most of them are really bad. I have a nice apt. here and don't really want to get something awful.
My limit for rent is $600 which is apparently not enough to find a "good" apartment.
So after talking about this "move" since January, now it's almost June 1. My lease is up end of August.
That's how I am feeling.
There are other (imo, better) areas of NC that are worth looking into. Check out Craigslist for apts in your price range for Cary, Raleigh, Carrboro, etc.
From most of the postings here, I gather that the "how do you feel?" topic is mainly regarding health, etc.
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I have a different thing to talk about. I am feeling discouraged and disappointed.
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That's how I am feeling.
NYgal2NC,
Your posting is right on topic. Emotional and physical health are intertwined. Being discouraged, disappointed or depressed affects your sleep pattern, your appetite or your eating/drinking habit, your energy level etc. To be physically active, one has to have the energy, the desire and the will to do so. While physically activity can lift one mood and make one feels alive, healthy and vibrant, one needs to have start first with a positive emotional state! It is an ironic feedback loop between emotional and physical well being. How does one gets out of the trough and get on the upward swing to the peak and stay there?
While waiting at the dentist office last Friday, I perused a Time magazine's article on resilience which explains why people react to life challenges differently
Resilience is your ability to adapt well and recover quickly after stress, adversity, trauma or tragedy. If you have a resilient disposition, you are better able to maintain poise and a healthy level of physical and psychological wellness in the face of life's challenges. If you're less resilient, you're more likely to dwell on problems, feel overwhelmed, use unhealthy coping tactics to handle stress, and develop anxiety and depression.
You can develop resilience by training your attention so that you're more intentional about your perceptions. You use purposeful, trained attention to decrease the negative thoughts in your mind and bring greater focus on the most meaningful aspect of an experience.
Programs incorporating these approaches can improve your resiliency, enhance your quality of life, and decrease your stress and anxiety.
Ten ways to build your emotional resilience
- See crises as challenges to overcome; not insurmountable problems
- Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends and family
- Accept that change is part of life, not a disaster
- Take control and be decisive in difficult situations
- Nurture a positive view of yourself - don’t talk yourself down or focus on flaws
- Look for opportunities to improve yourself: a new challenge, social situation or interest outside work. Set goals and plan ways to reach them
- Keep things in perspective: learn from your mistakes and think long-term
- Practise optimism and actively seek the good side of a bad situation
- Practise emotional awareness: can you identify what you are feeling and why?
- Look after yourself, through healthy eating, exercise, sleep and relaxation.
Sum Up
So when life is daunting and we need resilience, keep in mind:
1. Perceive And Believe
2. Manage Your Emotions
3. Be A Quitter
4. Be Delusional
5. Prepare… Even If It’s Too Late For Preparation
6. Stay Busy, Busy, Busy
7. Make It A Game
8. Get Help And Give Help
To live full lives some amount of difficulty is essential.
I hope that some of the suggestions in these articles are of help to you to deal with your disappointment and discouragement in finding an affordable place in NC for relocation. Best wishes.
I still don't know the answer to why Winston Salem, but, for example, I am familiar with Southern Pines-Pinehurst area and I would love to move there. SP is a sweet little town, with an Amtrak stop and a very walkable lifestyle. I think you would like it.
As to the subject of the post, however.... the attitude and the emotional baggage you have to deal with will travel with you wherever you go. Fix yourself before you make a major transition.
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