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The only minor "told you so" I can think of is how my extremely liberal parents used to make statements about other political groups. After barely grazing the edge of the Alt-Right back when no one knew what it was, and determining it was a step too far, I suppose my parents' voices were echoing a wee bit.
While young, did you listen to advice of parents or those older and wiser? Do you hear their words ringing in your ears?
Sure did:
Never marry anyone with kids.
Have lots of fun and enjoy life before you settle down!
All good advice.
As for the step kids part - go into it with eyes open. Don't go in thinking you are going to be a savior and remember to treat them equally as your kids. Otherwise don't do it!
While young, did you listen to advice of parents or those older and wiser? Do you hear their words ringing in your ears?
My parents were not advice givers. Neither were their parents. They taught by example and all three of us learned well. So no I told you so's in our lives.
The only advice my mother gave the girls in the family was to study hard to get a good job, be self sufficient and not having to depend on a husband.
My parents never told us what to do and what not to do. The same went with my husband's parents. The only time they expressed some concerns was when we both decided to quit our good jobs to go to graduate school while I was carrying our child. We understood their reasons but knew for certain that our decisions were right for us. My PILs visited us in our new home after I got my Ph.D and a great job. I never forgot my FIL's toast to our successes and our dreams which came to fruition.
I was my father's favorite daughter. The only time which he raised his voice and seemed to be very upset with me was when he learned that we had bought a plane. He kept talking about JFK Junior's plane crash. Again, I knew that he did so out of his love and concern for me. If he had advised us not to learn to fly or to own a plane, I would not have listened to him in spite of my tremendous love and respect for him.
We also don't offer my daughter any advices unless when she asked for our opinions.
IMO, the best things that parents can do for their children are setting examples. We can teach our kids manner, rights from wrongs when they are little. When they become adult, we have to let them make their own decisions, learn from their mistakes, offer advices only when being asked. Yes, we can express our concerns like our parents did but don't insist that the adult kids have to listen to us. Finally, we should also try our hardest not to say "I told you so"!
My mother advised me to stand up straight on your own two feet and that ladies don't swear (sorry Mom, I sometimes forget the last part)
My dad told me to make sure I learned something everyday.
My favorite aunt told me that smiling makes you feel better.
My grandmother told me that life isn't fair, so enjoy the good moments and roll with the bad.
For the most part, I followed their advice and they're right.
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