Is it better for older people to get married or live together? (emotionally, divorce)
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Depends on your tax status and who you want to inherit your estate. Generally it's cheaper and less hassle if not married, but then depends on your situation. I know several elders who live together for the convenience, taxes and other financial situations.
Marriage is the path that a man and woman take to show their commitment to each other. Living together without marriage effectively states that they are not committed to each other. This is true of every culture and society in the world.
... an asset-sharing partnership contract regulated by state (or central government) law. To the extent that it is a legal contract, yes, it is a commitment, rescindable at contract and legal cost.
Two humans enter into such contract and share assets in accordance with law, including any private sidebar agreement (pre-nuptial).
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Is it better for older people to get married or live together?
As mentioned several times already, it depends on the indivuduals' situations and their intentions regarding to what extent they shares assets between the two of them and among their heirs.
After 31 years of marriage, I can’t imagine trying again. I don’t think I’d even want a live in. I love and am in love with my husband but don’t feel I’d want to put the time and effort into another marriage.
And I disagree with the poster who wrote lack of marriage = lack of commitment. There are many practical reasons not to marry later in life including losing survivor benefits.
I know many older couples who have married after both spouses died or were divorced and been very happy. I think what matters is how one sets up the marriage. If there is a pre nuptial that outlines exactly how each persons money prior to the marriage will be dispersed etc, and very little co mingling of funds, then I think if a person wants to marry, go for it. I would not remarry, but not for financial reasons. I wouldn’t remarry because I would not want to have to divide my time between my children and grandchildren and his. And while I would/will gladly care for my husband if he were to become ill, I’m not doing it twice. I might find a friend with benefits, but we would maintain separate residences too. I don’t want to have to get used to a new person.
Marriage is the path that a man and woman take to show their commitment to each other. Living together without marriage effectively states that they are not committed to each other. This is true of every culture and society in the world.
That is a matter of OPINION. My opinion is different from yours.
It's better for some older people to get married; it's better for some older people to live together. There are many factors to be considered, and no blanket statement will work for everyone.
Better in what way? For some people it's better not to get married and for others the opposite is true. If you're a gold digger and want an easy way to inherit some money from a partner, you better get married. If you're a well to do individual and want your kids to inherit all or most of what you have, you better not marry.
Other than financial and legal considerations, it's whatever makes you happy.
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