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I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I'm 80 and thinking about things I didn't do but now wish I had. Or have you met all your goals, maybe even surpassing them?
A lot of my life has been spent alone. By choice. Too afraid of what could be right around the corner that could hurt me. I built up a strong defense. Not thinking about the good I missed out on. Or possibility of that. This thinking didn't really do me any favors. It made me feel angry, non-trusting, not much confidence in myself. So now looking back on my life, I realize how lonely and unhappy I am.
Don't want to discuss the detail of how I got here, but it sure did a job on my head. Yes, have done a lot of counseling and did learn a lot from it. But lack of finances have held me back from doing things I might have enjoyed. My ex got the better deal when we divorced, he had hidden money which should not have been a surprise to me. I think in some way it was easier for me to not think about it.
Any similar stories out there? If so, how have you changed? Did you learn how to trust again?
Tons of them. Of course, it us looking at the choices I made with the knowledge and perspective I have now, not what I had then.
I wish I had gone to college, something that didn't ever occur to me to do. It was one of those things that other people did.
I wish I hadn't thought I was of no value unless I got married. That thinking led me to marry someone I should not have.
I regret basing so many decisions on what other people thought rather than being true to myself, but I did not know that was an option until later in life.
I regret basing decisions on belief in a god who turned out who to either not exist or just not like me very much.
In some ways, though, those regrets led me down other paths. I would likely not ever have had another chance to marry, but I did get my daughter out of the bad marriage. I did not go to college, but I was forced to support myself and my child and so worked my way up into a management position for which a degree was normally required and retired with nice pension.
I learned to stand up for myself, take risks, and open up my world to learn about people from backgrounds different from mine as a result of my own religious background turning out to be painful and damaging.
I wish I had had more patience with my mother, and with dad, when they got really sick. I think I was just at the end of my rope and I didn't deal very well with everything. It was a difficult period. I'd wish to be more patient with her, and dad too.
The proverb can be read to have multiple implications when it comes to the concept of luck and fortune. The end of the story seems to suggest that every misfortune comes with a silver lining, or as we might put it in English—a blessing in disguise. But within the story is also the sense that with what at first appears to be good luck can come misfortune. Given its dual meaning, this proverb is commonly said when bad luck turns to good or when good luck turns to bad.
A few minor ones, sure. Who doesn't? As a flawed human who is unable to go back and re-live or change the past, harboring regrets about it isn't very beneficial.
A few minor ones, sure. Who doesn't? As a flawed human who is unable to go back and re-live or change the past, harboring regrets about it isn't very beneficial.
I agree, and I don't dwell on those regrets, but she asked, and I answered.
As I said, most of us made the choices we made then with what we knew then.
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