Are people friendly in Rochester? How? - New York (NY) - Page 2 - City-Data Forum

rgpg_99 · 07-07-2009, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by loveautumn

there's a difference between being friendly and actually wanting to be/make a friend..

That is a good distinction, and I guess that is what I was aiming at originally. There is a natural tendency to gravitate towards people who are like us. Unless...you live in a diverse environment where people come from so very different backgrounds, and are so different from each other, that there aren't that many people who are just like you.

If someone has grown up in a place and can identify plenty of "in-group" members, i.e., people who also grew up in the same place, attended the same schools, spent time in the same shopping malls/beaches/parks/etc., then why would they spend time trying to get to know someone with whom they do not have much in common (i.e., an "out-group" member)?

Does anyone watch "The King of Queens"? There is an episode where Doug and Carrie lose their regular couple friends (Deacon and Kelly), so they have to think of ways to find new friends, e.g., to visit the local supermarket and strike a conversation with other couples...an interesting situation indeed...

lattema · 07-07-2009, 11:02 PM

My daughter moved there 2 years ago this month from the west coast and it has been miserable for her. People are rude, landlords do all they can to screw tenants over and everyone is looking out for themselves.

NYMD67 · 07-08-2009, 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by garmin239

I'm in my late 20s. I hang out with people in their late 20s/early 30s. I am constantly meeting people in their late 20s and 30s while out and about(bars, concerts, festivals, restaurants, sporting events, etc) who aren't hanging out with family.
At our family thanksgivings, christmas, and easters we've had outsiders countless numbers of times. And we're one of those close knit Italian families.

So have we and we are also one of those "close knit Italian families",which is why I don't understand why it is the way it is in all the areas we have lived...

KoaKine · 07-10-2009, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by lattema

My daughter moved there 2 years ago this month from the west coast and it has been miserable for her. People are rude, landlords do all they can to screw tenants over and everyone is looking out for themselves.

I kind have to agree to a point. I do see dagree of something to the people from the west coast.