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Well had the conversation (he called me). I was very polite about it but explained that I need privacy and like to work outside alone. I said I'd still love to enjoy a beer or so but that it would work best for us if we could pre-arrange those things. I also pointed out the 2 times we tried to say something with no success. He seemed offended but said "ok" I will see how this goes. My wife and I are (what I feel) are really nice folks, its just this has been a constant aggravation as that I couldnt do a thing outside without company and after a long work week/day I just need that.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts, input and such.
Well done speaking up for yourself. He'll get over it or he won't. And you'll have your peace back.
Well you're just a city mouse. You and the neighbor will never totally get each other. A lot of the time new people from the city are shunned when they move to the country. At least the neighbor was trying to be friendly and welcoming in his way.
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Hopefully your time constraints will allow for the occasional beer, and even some mutual projects together when / if appropriate. Sometimes it's necessary to have a helping hand (for each neighbor). Towing cars around the yard, lifting beams, felling trees, pouring concrete from a 10 yr truck, setting trusses... all tough to do single handed. potentially dangerous too.
Good luck, nurture your neighbors when you are able. Stuff is all temporary. Relationships are important, but time consuming.
Thanks, While I do feel a little bad, I did remind myself that before we built the house and were walking the vacant lot (with full permission from agent) he was actually pretty nasty to me telling me I was trespassing even after I told him I had permission. The funny thing is we went one lot over from this lot specifically because I didnt want to be next to him and now when he was coming to my place he cuts across that vacant lot that he accused me of trespassing on.
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Well done speaking up for yourself. He'll get over it or he won't. And you'll have your peace back.
Thanks, While I do feel a little bad, I did remind myself that before we built the house and were walking the vacant lot (with full permission from agent) he was actually pretty nasty to me telling me I was trespassing even after I told him I had permission. The funny thing is we went one lot over from this lot specifically because I didnt want to be next to him and now when he was coming to my place he cuts across that vacant lot that he accused me of trespassing on.
ugh! So this sounds like a case of he feels like he owns the property and can do whatever he wants because he was there first. Yeah I know the type. Glad you've taken care of it.
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There is a reason some city folks should not come to the country.
One neighbor incessantly is bothered by my country stuff. Such us when I use green metal T posts that have 4 inches of white paint at the top for visibility to livestock and people. As soon as I'm away from home, she comes into my pasture and paints all the white tips green. Been 29 yrs now, she's not adapting real well to country life, and I've not been won over to her NYC style micro management of my western farm. We'll go to our graves with a level of tension and disagreement, but no one is getting shot.
I wave at my neighbors and stop to say hi, but don't get out of my car. Being friendly is good, but being too chummy with neighbors is a bad idea.
You can get along great for a while, then get on each other's nerves. Eventually, you'll end up enemies and who wants enemies living next door? No thanks. I have friends that aren't neighbors, and that's how I want it. Privacy and planned visits is my preference.
There is a reason some city folks should not come to the country.
One neighbor incessantly is bothered by my country stuff. Such us when I use green metal T posts that have 4 inches of white paint at the top for visibility to livestock and people. As soon as I'm away from home, she comes into my pasture and paints all the white tips green. Been 29 yrs now, she's not adapting real well to country life, and I've not been won over to her NYC style micro management of my western farm. We'll go to our graves with a level of tension and disagreement, but no one is getting shot.
Seriously?
Paints the top of your posts?
This really would not go over well in the rural Texas I know.
I wave at my neighbors and stop to say hi, but don't get out of my car. Being friendly is good, but being too chummy with neighbors is a bad idea.
You can get along great for a while, then get on each other's nerves. Eventually, you'll end up enemies and who wants enemies living next door? No thanks. I have friends that aren't neighbors, and that's how I want it. Privacy and planned visits is my preference.
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