Is It Difficult to Meet Eligible Single Men in San Francisco? (live, military)

[Bluesmama]

This topic is inspired by another "conversation" I had going in another post. It was starting to spiral a bit off-topic, so I thought it would make an interesting one of its own.

Okay, ladies. Many times I've been told, or read, that it's almost impossible to meet desirable single men in The City. I don't live there. I am just a frequent visitor, and my experiences have been different. In fact, in my travels I have probably met more eligible guys in SF than anywhere else. (No, not in bars.)

So I am interested in reading your thoughts and experiences on this issue.

[moxiezbug]

Define desireable: rich? powerful? swanky?

I'm sure SF has a lot of those, but you'd have a lot of competition.

Those types also can come with some very undesirable traits: conceited, self-centered, etc.

[Bluesmama]

Originally Posted by moxiezbug

Define desireable: rich? powerful? swanky?

I'm sure SF has a lot of those, but you'd have a lot of competition.

Those types also can come with some very undesirable traits: conceited, self-centered, etc.

Well, no, not really. Those are not traits that ever meant much to me, for the same "undesirable" reasons you mentioned. A lot of women are drawn to politicians (the power thing), but the thought of them makes me sick.

"Desirable" to me are just GUYS who are honest-working, have heart, and are not afraid of relationships. They could be "fun", cute or handsome (or not), athletic, outdoorsy, religious ~ these are all "extras" depending on what women/girls like.

I've met some interesting men there, but because I'm only a visitor, never had to learn much more about them. Perhaps I'd see things from a much different window if I lived there.

[gizmo980]

I've met plenty of "decent" men here, but unfortunately they never turn into anything... probably has more to do with myself, since I have issues with dating (too complicated to go into here!), but it's also harder in a big city. People are busy in cities like this, and tend to be in their own worlds - so you really have to put yourself out there, which some of us have trouble doing.

[oh2sail]

Maybe men here are trying hard to be PC, but I have a problem with them moving from being a friend to being a date. It's like the friendship process goes on so long I give up on them being dating material. At some point you need to cross the chasm, and for some reason in SF, that chasm starts off huge.

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by oh2sail

Maybe men here are trying hard to be PC, but I have a problem with them moving from being a friend to being a date. It's like the friendship process goes on so long I give up on them being dating material. At some point you need to cross the chasm, and for some reason in SF, that chasm starts off huge.

guys get smart in the big city. six zillion divorces later, look before you leap unless of course you got nothin to lose.

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[fromthebay]

not unless you like hippies

[gizmo980]

Originally Posted by fromthebay

not unless you like hippies

I love hippies... as long as they're intelligent and bathe regularly.