An unfair arrangement (rental, squatters, tenants)

[lisashomeoffice]

I have a son who is a high functioning autistic like person. He left the board and care that he was living in due to fact that the owner wanted to sell the property. My son could not find housing before the date he was to leave the other place, so, he stayed with me. He was here for two weeks, and yesterday, he became combative, so I called the police. The police told me that even though the place I rent is paid by me, my son is legally entitled to live there. The police said that after 72 hours the person has the right to live there as if it were his own home, and that he is entitled to come and go as pleases, and, if I lock him out, he is still entitled to live there as long as he wishes. This seems unfair. The police took him to the crisis center and said that if he returned later on that I had to let him in because it became "his home" and that I could get into trouble if I did not allow him in.
I live in California. Can anyone verify this?
To make matters worse, the crisis center told me that if I didn't allow him to come home, that I could be charged with abandonment. He has disabilities;however, he was aware of what he was doing. I told the crisis center that they could send me to jail before I would allow my son to return home. Isn't that crazy!!

[wenzit420]

Wow I dont understand what they are saying? Is he over 18? WTF? Weird, he must've been acting crazy if u got the popo involved. Maybe let him know the deal!!!!

[NorthernCalifornia]

If he's under 18 you are responsible for him. If he's an adult you need to arrange a verbal or written rental contract which you can then end. If he's disabled he may have some additional needs, eg you can't put a disabled person out on the street for no reason.

I suggest looking into tenants rights, particularly squatters rights in your area. The best option is to help him find somewhere else to live.

[ripley44mag]

Why don't you just shoot the kid? Your hate is showing. Ripley

[prettyred]

Originally Posted by lisashomeoffice

I have a son who is a high functioning autistic like person. He left the board and care that he was living in due to fact that the owner wanted to sell the property. My son could not find housing before the date he was to leave the other place, so, he stayed with me. He was here for two weeks, and yesterday, he became combative, so I called the police. The police told me that even though the place I rent is paid by me, my son is legally entitled to live there. The police said that after 72 hours the person has the right to live there as if it were his own home, and that he is entitled to come and go as pleases, and, if I lock him out, he is still entitled to live there as long as he wishes. This seems unfair. The police took him to the crisis center and said that if he returned later on that I had to let him in because it became "his home" and that I could get into trouble if I did not allow him in.
I live in California. Can anyone verify this?
To make matters worse, the crisis center told me that if I didn't allow him to come home, that I could be charged with abandonment. He has disabilities;however, he was aware of what he was doing. I told the crisis center that they could send me to jail before I would allow my son to return home. Isn't that crazy!!

You should watch 'Pacific Heights' ... I don't live in California, but if I did I would not rent or have anyone stay with me. I think they are correct... you might want to check the housing laws in your state.

[Lori1961]

Originally Posted by lisashomeoffice

I have a son who is a high functioning autistic like person. He left the board and care that he was living in due to fact that the owner wanted to sell the property. My son could not find housing before the date he was to leave the other place, so, he stayed with me. He was here for two weeks, and yesterday, he became combative, so I called the police. The police told me that even though the place I rent is paid by me, my son is legally entitled to live there. The police said that after 72 hours the person has the right to live there as if it were his own home, and that he is entitled to come and go as pleases, and, if I lock him out, he is still entitled to live there as long as he wishes. This seems unfair. The police took him to the crisis center and said that if he returned later on that I had to let him in because it became "his home" and that I could get into trouble if I did not allow him in.
I live in California. Can anyone verify this?
To make matters worse, the crisis center told me that if I didn't allow him to come home, that I could be charged with abandonment. He has disabilities;however, he was aware of what he was doing. I told the crisis center that they could send me to jail before I would allow my son to return home. Isn't that crazy!!

Wow your post left me speechless! You refer to your son as an "autistic like person"???? What is THAT? It sounds so cold. If he is combative, then get him some help. There are so many resources in California to help both children and adults with autism. How can you treat your son like this? No matter what the issue is, he is your flesh and blood! If he is autistic, he may need extra assistance and you need to help him.

I speak from experience...my son is autistic and whether he is 20 or 50, I would NEVER abandon him. Who abandons a child with disabilities?????