Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
At a grocery checkout earlier today, I moved my stuff out of my shopping baskets (I had two) and put the shopping baskets on the floor next to the counter. The clerk said in a loud and really angry-sounding voice "could I have that basket?" I handed them to her and she did not say thank you but instead kept grumpily entering stuff in her machine. There was this awkward silence.
What's a good way to handle this kind of minor but still really annoying rude behavior when it's happening? I don't feel like ignoring such surliness and I'd like to call it out.
Don't sweat the small stuff (It's all small stuff....).
Life is too short to get worked up over something that rarely happens (Grocery people are the usually the nicest, most volunteering merchants around).
The woman was probably having a bad moment, just like you and I will have in the next day or two.
At a grocery checkout earlier today, I moved my stuff out of my shopping baskets (I had two) and put the shopping baskets on the floor next to the counter. The clerk said in a loud and really angry-sounding voice "could I have that basket?" I handed them to her and she did not say thank you but instead kept grumpily entering stuff in her machine. There was this awkward silence.
What's a good way to handle this kind of minor but still really annoying rude behavior when it's happening? I don't feel like ignoring such surliness and I'd like to call it out.
One way is to be upfront and honest with the cashier and tell her, in a firm manner, that you can hear her just fine and she doesn't have to yell.
I experienced a day at the workplace when a fellow employee on the floor was very rude and abrupt when it was necessary for me to deal with her. I came very close to “calling her out” regarding her behavior.
Later in the afternoon while talking with another person in the area, I discovered that she (the original gal) had lost a family loved one just earlier that morning. Apparently she was getting her work affairs in order before leaving for the day and attending to personal issues.
I’ve learned that each of us have bad moments with some personal stressful issues. It’s not always easy to deal with each other but we need to remember that they are human and have problems from time to time.
I’d simply leave it alone unless it occurs more frequently on repeated interactions with them.
I, too, would just let it go. It bugs me when I get unfriendly service, but I remind myself that we all have bad days, and we don't know what burdens other people bear.
If I get repeated unfriendly service from a person, I make it my goal to make that person smile! It becomes my mission. With each visit, I will find something nice to say to the person - a compliment on their hair, a comment about the weather or about a bargain I'd found, etc. Eventually they wear down and say something friendly in return! It's way more fun than reporting the person to management and getting them into trouble.
Smother them with kindness! They’ll get the idea sooner or later.
U r such a kind man
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
With each visit, I will find something nice to say to the person - a compliment on their hair, a comment about the weather or about a bargain I'd found, etc. Eventually they wear down and say something friendly in return! It's way more fun than reporting the person to management and getting them into trouble.
