What happened to friendly Texas? (Houston, San Antonio: renters, to live in, move)

[kidicarus89]

Originally Posted by Jimbo302

I think that is a nation wide phenomenon.

It seems to be every generation's duty to criticize the generation that comes after it as lacking manners and lazy. If they're so bad, isn't it the fault of the previous generation for not instilling that in their kids?

Adding to useless anecdotal evidence: When I worked at an office supply store in college, I found young people were usually more shy, polite and said 'sir' and 'ma'am a lot more.

The 45-65 demographic tended to be more rude and entitled - always wanting discounts and exceptions to store policies, and quick to hit the "I want to speak to the manager" card. Elderly folks (70+) were always kind and friendly.

[radiolibre99]

Originally Posted by kidicarus89

It seems to be every generation's duty to criticize the generation that comes after it as lacking manners and lazy. If they're so bad, isn't it the fault of the previous generation for not instilling that in their kids?

Adding to useless anecdotal evidence: When I worked at an office supply store in college, I found young people were usually more shy, polite and said 'sir' and 'ma'am a lot more.

The 45-65 demographic tended to be more rude and entitled - always wanting discounts and exceptions to store policies, and quick to hit the "I want to speak to the manager" card. Elderly folks (70+) were always kind and friendly.

I think the difference might be in perception. The older demographic you listed are less shy and more open to talking to people so they come off as nicer but might also get ugly when pushed or when something is not to their satisfaction.

The younger generation are way more introverted by comparison. I am an older millennial and have noticed younger millennials are so painfully shy and introverted by comparison that I get frustrated sometimes. Even when some are not introverted they can't seem to balance having confidence without it spilling over into cockiness. Others are overly emotional to the point of banality. Point is, millennial social skills are all over the map and abysmal in my opinion.

As an example, take the Kesha vs Jerry Seinfeld fiasco that erupted on the internet. It was stupid but highlights what I am trying to say. Kesha couldn't come up to Seinfeld and just say hi like a normal person, she had to act like a fangirl and ask for a hug. Now I proly wouldn't have been as repulsed as Seinfeld was and would've stuck out my hand for a handshake but I see where he is coming from. That is just a weird way of trying to show your appreciation for an artist. I am all for people being friendly and nice but this over the top bubbly almost hippie love child way of expressing yourself the way some millennials do is just plain weird and overly emotional.

If it's not that they're just introverted and probably wouldn't even make eye contact with you. If not that, they're really cocky and off putting with their sense of entitlement. I mean in other words, this new generation doesn't have the best social skills because they can be extreme no matter what their personality type is. I don't know if it's because they're online half the time and limit their real social interactions to the cliques they've formed? I think it might be because they've been coccooned in whatever bubble they've designed for themselves and cannot stand anything poking it or making them feel uncomfortable or they retaliate with utter disdain. I just don't know but rarely do I find a millennial with a real sense of genuine social skills that have not been affected heavily by pop culture or the internet.

[C24L]

I was in Houston last year and I found the people to be friendly.I went to Dallas recently and people were friendly to me there too.

[kidicarus89]

Originally Posted by radiolibre99

I think the difference might be in perception. The older demographic you listed are less shy and more open to talking to people so they come off as nicer but might also get ugly when pushed or when something is not to their satisfaction.

The younger generation are way more introverted by comparison. I am an older millennial and have noticed younger millennials are so painfully shy and introverted by comparison that I get frustrated sometimes. Even when some are not introverted they can't seem to balance having confidence without it spilling over into cockiness. Others are overly emotional to the point of banality. Point is, millennial social skills are all over the map and abysmal in my opinion.

As an example, take the Kesha vs Jerry Seinfeld fiasco that erupted on the internet. It was stupid but highlights what I am trying to say. Kesha couldn't come up to Seinfeld and just say hi like a normal person, she had to act like a fangirl and ask for a hug. Now I proly wouldn't have been as repulsed as Seinfeld was and would've stuck out my hand for a handshake but I see where he is coming from. That is just a weird way of trying to show your appreciation for an artist. I am all for people being friendly and nice but this over the top bubbly almost hippie love child way of expressing yourself the way some millennials do is just plain weird and overly emotional.

If it's not that they're just introverted and probably wouldn't even make eye contact with you. If not that, they're really cocky and off putting with their sense of entitlement. I mean in other words, this new generation doesn't have the best social skills because they can be extreme no matter what their personality type is. I don't know if it's because they're online half the time and limit their real social interactions to the cliques they've formed? I think it might be because they've been coccooned in whatever bubble they've designed for themselves and cannot stand anything poking it or making them feel uncomfortable or they retaliate with utter disdain. I just don't know but rarely do I find a millennial with a real sense of genuine social skills that have not been affected heavily by pop culture or the internet.

Hmm, good food for thought. Yeah that hug thing was weird. Why would you ask to hug someone you don't know, especially someone with as many weird quirks about social interaction as Jerry Seinfeld?

[radiolibre99]

Originally Posted by kidicarus89

Hmm, good food for thought. Yeah that hug thing was weird. Why would you ask to hug someone you don't know, especially someone with as many weird quirks about social interaction as Jerry Seinfeld?

Yeah, and I am not letting Seinfeld totally off the hook. I thought that look of revulsion he sort of gave Kesha was a little much. At least extend your hand and say how about a shake and be gone. I get that he's quirky and has every right to refuse a weirdo like Kesha but I've never been a big fan of Seinfeld's whole quirky interactions anyways.

[Pretzelogik]

It has been populated by unfriendly transplants from the north and west.

[Tominftl]

What do you consider "friendly" ? Bringing a pie over and a welcoming committee are things of the past.....

[radiolibre99]

Originally Posted by Pretzelogik

It has been populated by unfriendly transplants from the north and west.

I think native Californians are actually pretty friendly. Austin and Dallas are getting a lot of Californians while NYers are going to Houston.

[Treasurevalley92]

Originally Posted by radiolibre99

I think native Californians are actually pretty friendly. Austin and Dallas are getting a lot of Californians while NYers are going to Houston.

Yeah, I agree, most Californians that I've met are friendly as are most Texans.

[mrwumpus]

Originally Posted by Treasurevalley92

Yeah, I agree, most Californians that I've met are friendly as are most Texans.

As a native Californian, I concur. The key difference in my experience is Californians are busy and in a hurry, so friendly is quick and apparently shallow, unlike Southern cultures where the person is making long small chat and taking their time. But they both can be considered friendly, perhaps at different wavelengths.