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If someone does not have the decency to thank another for a gift, perhaps they don't want it or appreciate it. In that case, find someone else to be the recipient of your generosity.
I'm in the same predictament. No thank you received for graduation gift. Now a few years later getting invitation to bridal shower. Think I'll just send a card and no $$ and no gift. Seems harsh, but hopefully they figure out that thanking someone for a gift is not something that ever goes out of style.
Was it a gift or the ticket to an event?
Yeah, sure it's nice to be thanked, but I think the DEMAND, the absolute expectation that we've been taught we MUST receive a written acknowledgement is IMO just as bad. A gift is supposed to be something given from the heart, not the price of admission.
Instead of a gift, send a card - it's like leaving a nickel tip. "yeah, I know what I am doing - what are YOU gonna do about it?"
I'm not a stickler on TY notes, but it is nice to get SOME kind of thank you - text message, FB message, whatever. Right now I am dealing with GK's who are all under 18 so I cut them some slack. Adults should know better.
If you go to the shower, maybe a very small gift. A bib.
Was it a gift or the ticket to an event?
Yeah, sure it's nice to be thanked, but I think the DEMAND, the absolute expectation that we've been taught we MUST receive a written acknowledgement is IMO just as bad. A gift is supposed to be something given from the heart, not the price of admission.
I sent each of my six nieces and nephews (all teenagers) $100 gift cards for Christmas. Haven't heard a sound from any of them. Do I expect a written letter sent in the mail? No way; I haven't seen one of those in years. But do I expect a quick text just saying "thanks"? Yup, I do.
Writing a Thank you note needs to be taught at a young age. The 20’s something isn’t going to know to write a Thank you note or even say Thank you if this wasn’t taught early on.
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I gave my niece $100 as a wedding gift over a year ago, and I have not received a thank you note. I didn't even receive a verbal thank you. I checked with her mother (my sis) and she said she just didn't send them out, to anyone. I also gave her a $50 college graduation gift the previous month, and again, nothing.
Niece is now pregnant. If it were you, would you get a baby gift (or any subsequent gifts in the future)?
I would give a baby gift. Gifts are given because you want to, but some ppl sound like they wouldn’t give a gift out of punishment. I wouldn’t like it if I didn’t get a thank you or a text, but it wouldn’t stop me from giving gifts in the future. IMO, it seems like a super silly thing to hold a grudge about.
I agree. Give the baby gift. However, if I really want to know what's up, I ask the person directly and not a relative. How they speak to me at the point could be used for future decisions on gift giving. So far, everyone I have ever asked if they received my gift has been very polite.
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