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For those of you "round pegs in square holes" (Jobs), how do you manage fitting in, quieting your voice/opinions, and just following the "rules" (constraints) followed by corporate job settings?
....just having one of those days where my "squareness" is glaringly apparent
Be true to yourself by your actions over words and remember your real goals. Lots of truth in the saying "you can catch more bees with honey than vinegar" and keep that saying in ind whenyou have a goal.
I now work for myself, but when I interviewed for the last corporate job I had, I was honest with the interviewer. I told him if he was looking for a "yes man", I wouldn't be a good fit. While I am always polite and willing to listen to and consider all sides of an issue, if I have a better solution, I'll speak up. There were more than a few times when he and I went head to head and he insisted we do things his way. I always told him I disagreed, but would complete the project per his specifications. And when he later figured out I was right, I never had the bad manners to say "I told you so." I worked for him for almost 10 years before I left to start my own business. He still calls me periodically to try and lure me back to the company.
For those of you "round pegs in square holes" (Jobs), how do you manage fitting in, quieting your voice/opinions, and just following the "rules" (constraints) followed by corporate job settings?
....just having one of those days where my "squareness" is glaringly apparent
Its a tough, you just have sit on your opinions, emotions - showing any kind emotional reaction, or indeed human characteristics in corporate environments will just make you stick out.
Its all about denial of reality, blandness and soul sucking conformity.
Thankfully I now have a boss who is almost as outspoken as I am but I have gathered quite a few enemies over the years by speaking my mind. Basically you just have to bite your tongue and say it to yourself rather than out loud. Or wait till you get home and have imaginary conversations with your coworkers (preferably whilst relaxing in the tub with a glass of something chilled and alcoholic ). I still have some colleagues who make me so angry I want to bellow, but life is too short. I comfort myself with the thought that what goes around, comes around.
In my experience (which is significant), the people who are outspoken, opinionated, and speak up and most importantly show off when they need to are those that do well.
The hard working quiet people who just do their job and say 'yes' to everything will do OK, but they will find it harder to make it into management.
In my experience (which is significant), the people who are outspoken, opinionated, and speak up and most importantly show off when they need to are those that do well.
The hard working quiet people who just do their job and say 'yes' to everything will do OK, but they will find it harder to make it into management.
I just shut up. Do I know that the person who is sitting there swearing at his computer is pressing the wrong button? Yes. But as I am new (6months ish), my opinion is really only relevant when asked...so I just make sure I am able to answer the question when asked and move on to what I am doing.
Being silent and thinking to myself "if you had asked me you would have the answer by now helps. A lot.
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). I still have some colleagues who make me so angry I want to bellow, but life is too short. I comfort myself with the thought that what goes around, comes around.
