Paying for work lunch/dinner etiquette questions.. (employer, career, tax)
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It's indeed theft but theft from the company, not "theft" from subordinate fellow employees which is what this thread is basically all about. If the company accountant is dumb enough to approve such expenses because he/she is too lazy to look at details, that's too bad but it doesn't directly and financially affect the other participants.
The questions was asked if the OP should have paid an equal amount or just what her meal cost. Clearly that is a universal question that would apply to any group of people going out to eat, work related or not.
1. The even split is the usual way the bill is paid when a co-workers goes out for a meal. I think you did the right thing by paying the amount you were asked. You would have looked really cheap if you had nickel and dimed over $8.
The only way to avoid that is by not going out with them.
2. That admin's behavior was completely unprofessional. If you noticed, I'm sure others have as well, and I'm sure it doesn't sit too well with management.
Question #1 just depends on the person, I guess. I went out to celebrate a friend's birthday recently, which is why I keep bringing up the 10 people equation. Some people ordered alcohol and some didn't (I was one who didn't). But since it was a high-end place we just split the check evenly between ourselves and the birthday girl didn't pay.
Question #2 Maybe you should pull the employee to the side and mention something to her? A lot of companies/places aren't ethically/morally sound. Maybe you could put a change to that. It obviously wasn't her first time doing that if she was comfortable with it.
Question 1 - Just to clarify, there were no seperate cheques, and I'm male
Question 2 - I'm not her manager, so I'm not really in any position to do anything about it...
Question 1 - Just to clarify, there were no seperate cheques, and I'm male
Question 2 - I'm not her manager, so I'm not really in any position to do anything about it...
if you have some sort of confidential hotline i would report it, assuming she works for your company (i may have missed that info). someone who is okay with doing something like that right in front of other employees is definitely questionable. who knows what other things she is taking from the company. i assume you want to work for a company that is financially solid
if you have some sort of confidential hotline i would report it, assuming she works for your company (i may have missed that info). someone who is okay with doing something like that right in front of other employees is definitely questionable. who knows what other things she is taking from the company. i assume you want to work for a company that is financially solid
What SHE? The only time the OP mentioned gender was in reference to going to the admin manager on the QT after the fact to ask advice (as has already been pointed out) and who wasn't in attendance at this luncheon. Reading even a short thread is a good idea before commenting.
What SHE? The only time the OP mentioned gender was in reference to going to the admin manager on the QT after the fact to ask advice (as has already been pointed out) and who wasn't in attendance at this luncheon. Reading even a short thread is a good idea before commenting.
No. The person who ordered the extra meal is the one the poster is referring to. The same person I referred to earlier on.
In theory, if someone invites you out to eat, it's proper etiquette for them to treat you.
If someone invited me out to eat then forced me to pay for my own food, I would do just that then cut my ties from them, as I don't mingle with classless people.
As far as your question #2 OP, what other people do is none of your business (even if it's wrong). You'll do best to not get involved in what they do.
Proper etiquette is to split the cost of the entire check evenly to avoid hassle and complication.
If you don't like the rules then maybe you shouldn't have eaten out with a group of people.
For example: If there are 10 people and the check is $500, then you each should be paying $50.
For question 2, if you weren't paying for the meal then why does it matter? It was expensed to the company. Did you want to order a meal too and feel disappointed that you didn't?
thats dumb
what if you had a glass of water and a salad and they had lobsters, caviar and steak or whatever else
u pay only yo part
In theory, if someone invites you out to eat, it's proper etiquette for them to treat you.
If someone invited me out to eat then forced me to pay for my own food, I would do just that then cut my ties from them, as I don't mingle with classless people.
As far as your question #2 OP, what other people do is none of your business (even if it's wrong). You'll do best to not get involved in what they do.
no its not
if u a man and takin yo woman out then yea, but u dont need to pay for friends or others unless they're broke and u jus want to be nice, but u dont have to
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