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Originally Posted by statisticsnerd
I can tolerate the yellers better than the little (mentally and morally) women who smile in your face and then a few minutes later go stand in the corner whispering about you. It's that petty behavior that gets under my skin more than the overt verbal bullying.
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Agreed! My dad was a yeller, an 'overtalker' - it has helped me be well versed in this bullying... I just wait till they're finished and continue right where I left off.
I'm just remembering the elderly woman's face from yesterday, she looked like she was standing in the middle of train tracks and the 5.15 was coming - I felt sorry for her. She was clearly
not someone who was accustomed to it, but bounced back beautifully afterward. I'll use her as a good example of how to respond.
However the catty, petty behavior you speak of is a bigger concern of mine. I notice it starts as 'idling at rude'...and it has sometimes been with people I've just met. My first reaction is to avoid, it has been a lifelong behavior for me --avoid these people. Those behaviors = curt answers, answering any question as if it's absurd
if answering them at all, adding just that extra second of stare/glare after something has been requested or asked...all the little things that add up.