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About 2 months ago I made a thread about how my manager at my staffing agency (who works in a different town than I) had disappeared during the middle of an important instant message conversation, leaving me worried for the rest of the day and night because the last thing she said sounded like an implication that I might get fired. She eventually got back to me, but I still though it was inconsiderate for her to leave me hanging the first time. Well, she pulled another disappearing act 2 days ago.
Summary:
She starts an instant message convo with me and asks me whether I might want to work on the client company's campus for 1 week every month. (I work in the middle of nowhere, for no good reason, and hate it, although I've never vocalized the fact that I hate it.)
I tell her that I'd be thrilled to. Then I tell her that I was planning to, sometime in the future, ask my other manager, the one at the client company, whether working "onsite" could be a more permanent arrangement.
At this point my manager gives an evasive answer, something like, "Well, there might be security concerns, since you were hired as part of [the team that works in the middle of nowhere]. There's a new vendor management team." (What????? I worked on-campus last week and there were no 'security concerns' or whatever. My other manager, the one at the client company, doesn't care where I work, as long as I'm connected to the network and able to finish my work items on-time.)
I ask her if she could elaborate on rules pertaining to where I can work.
She suddenly signs offline. She signs back on later in the day but sets her status to "Away" so that no one can contact her.
Early the next morning I shoot her an email saying, "Hi, [her name]. Just to summarize what I said in our conversation today, I am happy for the opportunity to work onsite for 1 week every month, and I mentioned that once I get more integrated with my new team I was going to inquire about working onsite like several of my other teammates do. If you want to talk to me by phone, just let me know. Have a good Friday!"
She ignores that email. She was signed in yesterday and I have trouble believing that she forgot to read it or forgot to respond.
Anyways, what are your thoughts on this? I've been worried this weekend because, well, it's worrisome when your manager is avoiding you. I have a feeling she just doesn't want to speak with me. When her manager, the executive, pays my site a visit, should I bring up to him the fact that my manager has ignored me twice?
Something is badly amiss and I've never had someone ignore me like this, especially when asking honest questions. I would bring it up to the more senior manager.
If you're saying she's made it clear by not continuing, I would still call her. To me, that's not clear enough. If she told you that, then that's a different story, in which case I wouldn't have any conversations that are important to me via chat. She's not going to stop this habit of hers and she may be doing it on purpose knowing you go into a tailspin every time she does it.
Oh great, another post by the OP which does nothing but complain.
I have to disagree with you here. This poster has a legitimate concern and is simply asking for help in how to deal with it. As noted in the initial post, this isn't the first time the manager has done this.
I have to disagree with you here. This poster has a legitimate concern and is simply asking for help in how to deal with it. As noted in the initial post, this isn't the first time the manager has done this.
Right.
Though, if I was the OP, I would avoid using texts for discussions as this.
A telephone call would be more appropriate for long-winded discussions such as this.
This isn't a simple "I am running late" which can be accomplished with a text.
It seems having read some of your other threads, you are anxious, understand. You need to face your fears and have a discussion with management. Or if you already know inside something is amiss and don't want to share, then let us know you are venting, and quietly look for another job. Good luck.
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