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So I recently was presented with a great job offer that pretty much was a win across the board - salary, benefits, 401k , etc. However, I've been in my current role for several years now and I'm extremely comfortable. I'm able to do my job with relative ease and I have great relationships with my co-workers and management. That being the case, as I move closer and closer to my last day, I'm starting to rethink my decision and I almost want to stay. My current company did make a counter offer, but it was way below what I'd be getting from the new company.
So I'm really having trouble with whether I should I go with my head and just take the new job or go with my heart and stay where I'm at.
How old are you? Is money a big factor in your life? Do you not think you will feel comfortable in your new job?
There had to be a reason why you originally started looking for a new job. It is normal to feel a little nervous when leaving a place where you are comfortable... but I think the obvious choice is the better salary and benefits.
Think about this- your job as you currently know it will not always be your job. Because if you do not leave someone/something else certainly will. Sooner or later your favorite co workers will either find other jobs, have kids, leave to take care of parents or simply retire. Someone above you will either get promoted, transfer duties or go elsewhere. A change in your industry will change your job responsibilities or expectations. A lack of raises could make your financial position untenable. A poor (or booming) economy will send managers or coworkers into other businesses or fields. If you wait for that to happen you are going to look back longingly- or even bitterly- at this opportunity.
My own mother gave up numerous chances to either take lateral or vertical moves to jobs that would have been nicer or better. She always felt the 'community' at the school she taught in could not be replaced. And it probably couldn't but by the last five years she worked most of the people who actually contributed to that community being worthwhile moved on and she was pretty staggered by the BS she dealt with and the lack of professionalism in the newer people. Had she moved on herself she probably would have been in an admin job that she could have easily held into her late 60s or a teacher specialist roll that would have allowed her more ability to move. As it was she really did end her career with a whimper- as opposed to the experience she had with that same job in her forties through mid fifties where she worked among people who truly cared about their jobs/students/school and built the community she was nervous to leave. Instead it left her and she pretty much retired once her pension was available rather than half-a**ing it.
Hasn't anyone told you you can't take a counter offer after you resigned? Once you resign, then company knows you have a foot out the door. If you go back, they may only keep you long enough to find your replacement. There may be posts after mine that contradict this advice and tell stories about how it all worked out and they got what they wanted or some such, but do you really want to take that chance?
And as someone else mentioned, there was a reason you pursued the job in the first place. That hasn't changed, has it?
How old are you? Is money a big factor in your life? Do you not think you will feel comfortable in your new job?
There had to be a reason why you originally started looking for a new job. It is normal to feel a little nervous when leaving a place where you are comfortable... but I think the obvious choice is the better salary and benefits.
I'm 32 with a wife and two kids, so money is always nice! My company was sold about three months ago, so that's why I started looking, even though things have been status quo so far.
I've always been told that once you get "comfortable" at a job, that it is time to leave. By the same token though, you will hear from some others that have spent their whole careers at one place. The difference being, their salary trajectory was likely far slower than someone who hopped jobs a few times.
I'm 32 with a wife and two kids, so money is always nice! My company was sold about three months ago, so that's why I started looking, even though things have been status quo so far.
Take the job. It is hard to leave a comfortable situation, but you have a wonderful offer!
I would never take a counter offer, because it's like a "cheating spouse." You cheated on the company, and while they may keep you around for now, they probably will get rid of you at the first available opportunity.
I understand the point about feeling sentimental, and would even suggest reconsidering if you hadn't made a counteroffer. You've pretty much gone off the high dive at this point and now it's time to swim.
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I would never take a counter offer, because it's like a "cheating spouse." You cheated on the company, and while they may keep you around for now, they probably will get rid of you at the first available opportunity.
I understand the point about feeling sentimental, and would even suggest reconsidering if you hadn't made a counteroffer. You've pretty much gone off the high dive at this point and now it's time to swim.
I did once, because of comfort and I liked my boss, and I regretted it. Things worked out in the end (years later), but it set me back.
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Having been sold 3 months ago, I would not expect major changes for another 2-3 months. There is no guarantee that those changes would affect you, but they could. There are more important things than just the paycheck amount, people should be happy and comfortable with their work to avoid unhealthy stress. At this point, however, I would consider your bridges to have been burned, and would stick with the new job. In a few months, you will most likely become as comfortable there as you were in the old job. Changing jobs is always a stressful, even scary process, getting cold feet is very normal.
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