Bully's In the Workplace (employment, job, company, fired)
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I spent the past six months dealing with one. I worked for a program manager who thought he could bully me into breaking company processes because he didn't like how long it took to get a specific task done. For a while I simply advised as to why the processes were in place and that I had to follow them. Eventually his antics got worse, and as they did I more firmly stood my ground. Towards the end, he was calling me at home to tell me that rumors were going around that no one liked my work. I laughed it off because my manager said the exact opposite. He eventually complained enough to upper management that he got a "promotion" in the form of being pulled from my contract and pushed into a lesser role.
Once a bully figures out that they cannot bully you, they will stop in one form or another. I guess I don't really get too concerned with a "bully" because they can't do anything to me that I will allow to negatively alter my life. You just have to be willing to stand your ground.
Does anyone have experience with being bullied at work? From what I've read on the internet, Bully's never get fired.
You read correctly. For two reasons. First, it is HR's job to make sure this stuff disappears and cannot possibly be a legal issue. So--by not acknowledging the "bully", they have to do nothing. There is a reason bullies survive while the people they intimidate move on. Second, it is a clinical fact, documented, that in schools and work situations, it is much easier, less effort to quiet the victim rather than confront the bully. So, it is commonplace that the victim gets victimized twice. Just another peripheral negative of many, making HR a "real" department in business's. HR loves, promotes, accommodates work place bullies. If you try to take them on, make sure your resume is updated. You will lose.
"According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, workplace bullying is abusive conduct that takes the form of verbal abuse; threats, humiliation, or intimidation; or interference that prevents the target from getting work done (sabotage). As in the schoolyard, bullying often starts when one person starts picking on someone else and then enlists others to join in. The workplace bully may be a manager, coworker, vendor, or even a customer."
I've been the target for over a year. I didn't even know they have a name for it- Bullying.
It really does a number on you emotionally. I'm a strong person but if you bully someone day in and day out it really gets you down after awhile.
thunderkat59, I think you're right.
BTW, I looked up bully's on city-data but didn't find much.
I prefer to call them s***heads. Sorry but I'm in construction. The one I had the most trouble with has gotten people fired in the past. I mostly tried avoiding him at first until he started to disparage my work and literally insult me because he couldn't read the prints or use common sense. I made him look like the idiot he was in front of a few people and he calmed down after that.
I don't understand how this happens to adults. If someone's behavior towards you is unacceptable, then you need to confront it.
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