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There are a couple of people who sit in the office next to me. We'll call them Bob and Susan. Susan is in her late 50s and Bob is in his 20s. They chat all the time and have a friendly relationship (nothing remotely sexual, trust me, she may as well be his mother). Anyway, they eat lunch together and seem like friends.
Well, he was out sick one day and I overheard her tell the boss "Bob isn't doing his job." His productivity doesn't affect her in any way, so I don't see why she would tattle on him. I could see what he was working on, and it looked like he was just waiting on some information which would explain the lack of productivity.
Keep work at workplace, and you shouldn't have a problem. Don't hang out with your coworkers like they are your friend because they are not. You guys just happen to know one another because of the work.
I see a lot of people making it personal, and it always make me wonder when are they going to get into some kind of argument that would end their relationship as a coworker.
Yeah, but in this case whether Bob and Susan were friends or not -- Bob's productivity isn't Susan's business.
But yeah, you certainly wouldn't expect her behavior from someone you'd consider a friend.
Where I worked, IF Bob had been a friend...I'd give HIM a heads up about Susan.
I've had work friends. But we also are mature, responsible people. So it goes without saying, I'll have your back as much as I can. But I can't fall on a sword for you. My work friends give each other a 'heads up" about various things, depends on what it is.
-- Heads up -- they weren't able to find your work last night.
-- Heads up -- they're going to ask your shift to stay for overtime tomorrow
-- Heads up -- a manager is here today.
To me, it's called sticking together.
To my knowledge at no time has anyone I'd call a friend betrayed a confidence.
Now, are there others at work who'll throw you under a bus and run you over twice? Sure
Let's hope you learn who they are -- NOT by first hand experience -- and NOT for anything major.
Yeah, but in this case whether Bob and Susan were friends or not -- Bob's productivity isn't Susan's business.
But yeah, you certainly wouldn't expect her behavior from someone you'd consider a friend.
Where I worked, IF Bob had been a friend...I'd give HIM a heads up about Susan.
I've had work friends. But we also are mature, responsible people. So it goes without saying, I'll have your back as much as I can. But I can't fall on a sword for you. My work friends give each other a 'heads up" about various things, depends on what it is.
-- Heads up -- they weren't able to find your work last night.
-- Heads up -- they're going to ask your shift to stay for overtime tomorrow
-- Heads up -- a manager is here today.
To me, it's called sticking together.
To my knowledge at no time has anyone I'd call a friend betrayed a confidence.
Now, are there others at work who'll throw you under a bus and run you over twice? Sure
Let's hope you learn who they are -- NOT by first hand experience -- and NOT for anything major.
Maybe he's not doing his job properly? Maybe he is but there's more to think about? Maybe they get along socially?
Maybe they eat together at lunch because it's convenient? Maybe she's being pressured for results and needs an excuse? Maybe he's been mean about her behind her back too? Maybe he's hanging out with the wrong people? Maybe the boss has instigated a rumor? Maybe this was simple miscommunication? Maybe there's an axe to grind somewhere not in the picture?
One thing I do know - as anybody with any common sense knows - you leave it alone!
I don't say squat to managers unless asked. If someone is not pulling their weight, they'll know it long before anyone else.
I just keep to myself.
Me too. Not going to tattle on my coworkers unless they're doing something SUPER inappropriate or illegal (which has never happened that I've seen).
Even when I was called down to HR to answer questions about an incident that occurred while I was sitting at my desk, I told them nothing. I didn't hear or see anything (the truth) and I told them as much.
Guess we all have our stories. Personally I knew quite a few people at various jobs I could trust...and did. If they undercut me it was so subtle it didn't affect someone who was honest and did their work. Possibly I was too dense to notice. Or possibly I was lucky enough to work with conscientious adults who mind their own business.
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