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I had a very long term series of traumas occur (over eight years, almost non-stop).
I am old.
A couple of years ago, I started "resting."
I am feeling much better physically, emotionally, and mentally - but I have spurts of energy.
I do not want to live a sedentary lifestyle - as I know that is unhealthy (and non-productive) - I have a lot of stuff I want and need to do.
The reason for this post is that I have been feeling very tired and lazy. I can't motivate myself to do much of anything. I will make myself take a walk - I have to or I am going to end up in bad shape.
In some metaphysical circles (Law of Attraction, Abraham Hicks), they say not to force action - to wait until you are inspired.
On some level, I think I need to rest to further recover - on another level, I fear I have become lazy!
I had a very long term series of traumas occur (over eight years, almost non-stop).
I am old.
A couple of years ago, I started "resting."
I am feeling much better physically, emotionally, and mentally - but I have spurts of energy.
I do not want to live a sedentary lifestyle - as I know that is unhealthy (and non-productive) - I have a lot of stuff I want and need to do.
The reason for this post is that I have been feeling very tired and lazy. I can't motivate myself to do much of anything. I will make myself take a walk - I have to or I am going to end up in bad shape.
In some metaphysical circles (Law of Attraction, Abraham Hicks), they say not to force action - to wait until you are inspired.
On some level, I think I need to rest to further recover - on another level, I fear I have become lazy!
Any thoughts?
First of all, quit telling your body you are old. I have no idea how old you are but at 81 I still won't say that about myself. I've aged and older but who hasn't. A friend is 93 and she refuses to talk about aging.
And about resting and sleeping, it's a major couple healers and DO THEM. Your body is telling you something. I love my 10 hrs of great sleep and if I didn't have that, lord knows how I'd be. And I rest during the day and often even doze off. No guilt here and I live simply so not a heckava lot to do constant be doing. I did that for 40 yrs before I retired.
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I think you do need to force yourself to do certain things, every day.
You don't say how old you are, but it's great practice to get down on the floor, lay down, roll over, and get yourself back up off the floor every single day, several times a day. So you don't lose that ability. So you can easily get down on the floor and get yourself back up when you're 85. Which not all 85 year olds can do.
And I think you should walk several times a week. Even if it's only for a mile on a fairly flat surface, unless you are currently injured or ill.
Giving in is giving up, and that will cause your decline.
(I say that, but I had an aunt to lived to 88 and never stood if she could sit, and certainly never purposely walked anywhere she didn't have to, and if something fell on the floor, it was just lost to her unless someone picked it up for her. She was rail thin and on Sundays would drive to a restaurant on the other side of town after church so her friends wouldn't see how unbelievably much bacon she would eat at one sitting, and when she wanted to sit down on a couch she'd just back into it, and fall backwards. No leg muscles at all. But, you know, she lived to 88 enjoying life. There's always someone who doesn't follow the pattern).
I think you do need to force yourself to do certain things, every day.
You don't say how old you are, but it's great practice to get down on the floor, lay down, roll over, and get yourself back up off the floor every single day, several times a day. So you don't lose that ability. So you can easily get down on the floor and get yourself back up when you're 85. Which not all 85 year olds can do.
And I think you should walk several times a week. Even if it's only for a mile on a fairly flat surface, unless you are currently injured or ill.
Giving in is giving up, and that will cause your decline.
(I say that, but I had an aunt to lived to 88 and never stood if she could sit, and certainly never purposely walked anywhere she didn't have to, and if something fell on the floor, it was just lost to her unless someone picked it up for her. She was rail thin and on Sundays would drive to a restaurant on the other side of town after church so her friends wouldn't see how unbelievably much bacon she would eat at one sitting, and when she wanted to sit down on a couch she'd just back into it, and fall backwards. No leg muscles at all. But, you know, she lived to 88 enjoying life. There's always someone who doesn't follow the pattern).
Yes. I think I need a coach!
My mother lived to be almost 97 and never did anything, but I really NEED and want to be more fit.
Funny about getting on the floor - there is something wrong with my freezer and it's making oodles of ice. I had to get down on the floor (it's a bottom freezer) and pull the drawer out and try to get behind the drawer to get stray ice cubes.
As I was getting up I told myself I needed to not use anything as a prop - to just get up by myself, and I did.
I'm familiar with Abraham and other metaphysical entities, and they all say to not push or force, and that pushing or forcing creates problems and things you don't want. It's okay to not like doing certain things, but it's not okay to discount yourself for not liking them or not doing them. Don't "should" on yourself
If you think you want to work out yet you are not, then you are hesitating. Identify what those hesitations are. Some of them may be quite valid and others might be less so.
Another suggestion is to focus on the benefits of what you want to do or achieve. Aren't you worth giving yourself those benefits, a better life? Then maybe, if you can, alter the aspects you don't like — don't dismiss or ignore them, but maybe change them in some way so as to make them less distasteful or important. Those you can't change, try to reframe them so as to create some type of game for yourself. Give yourself points or stars or flowers for achievements. But keep it light and playful, not serious or competitive or punitive. Be flexible, not rigid.
I will reframe "old" and "lazy":
You are not old, you are wise. You have gained the wisdom of listening to your body's requests for rest.
You are not lazy, you are efficient. Rest is the most efficient way for the body to recuperate and heal. Once you are healed, you will be able to achieve all that you want to achieve
I'm familiar with Abraham and other metaphysical entities, and they all say to not push or force, and that pushing or forcing creates problems and things you don't want. It's okay to not like doing certain things, but it's not okay to discount yourself for not liking them or not doing them. Don't "should" on yourself
If you think you want to work out yet you are not, then you are hesitating. Identify what those hesitations are. Some of them may be quite valid and others might be less so.
Another suggestion is to focus on the benefits of what you want to do or achieve. Aren't you worth giving yourself those benefits, a better life? Then maybe, if you can, alter the aspects you don't like — don't dismiss or ignore them, but maybe change them in some way so as to make them less distasteful or important. Those you can't change, try to reframe them so as to create some type of game for yourself. Give yourself points or stars or flowers for achievements. But keep it light and playful, not serious or competitive or punitive. Be flexible, not rigid.
I will reframe "old" and "lazy":
You are not old, you are wise. You have gained the wisdom of listening to your body's requests for rest.
You are not lazy, you are efficient. Rest is the most efficient way for the body to recuperate and heal. Once you are healed, you will be able to achieve all that you want to achieve
I like it! Thanks for the pep talk!
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