"Red shirting" spring birthdays (Buckhead: preschools, live in, versus)

[And123]

I have heard a lot about holding back summer birthdays but wanted to know if anyone knew of the top private schools (which ones in particular) allowing "red shirting" for spring birthdays for maturity reasons? Thanks!

[lastminutemom]

Originally Posted by And123

I have heard a lot about holding back summer birthdays but wanted to know if anyone knew of the top private schools (which ones in particular) allowing "red shirting" for spring birthdays for maturity reasons? Thanks!

Almost all of the private schools will allow you to "red shirt" for any reason.

[LovelySummer]

The next thing you know people will be redshirting kids with January birthdays. G-D forbid the kids born in fall will be more mature possibly.

As you can see I'm an advocate for simply getting your kid ready in time since you know it is coming years in advance instead of saying the kid is possibly immature when it is time to go to school. But that's just me.

OP, our kid goes to private school and actually all of the kids get along well in class and are doing just fine. The birthdays span the entire school year. Some have already turned the next year old and school started in August/September. Some will not turn the next year old until May/June/July. I know this for a fact because I know the parents and the kids are having birthday parties already. My kid is born in spring and he's a boy. We just worked with him and he is and has always been an extremely disciplined, well-behaved student and one of the smartest in the class to boot...irrespective of birth month. I just expect him to act a certain way and instill it in him with discipline and encouragement.

[lastminutemom]

Originally Posted by LovelySummer

The next thing you know people will be redshirting kids with January birthdays. G-D forbid the kids born in fall will be more mature possibly.

As you can see I'm an advocate for simply getting your kid ready in time since you know it is coming years in advance instead of saying the kid is possibly immature when it is time to go to school. But that's just me.

OP, our kid goes to private school and actually all of the kids get along well in class and are doing just fine. The birthdays span the entire school year. Some have already turned the next year old and school started in August/September. Some will not turn the next year old until May/June/July. I know this for a fact because I know the parents and the kids are having birthday parties already. My kid is born in spring and he's a boy. We just worked with him and he is and has always been an extremely disciplined, well-behaved student and one of the smartest in the class to boot...irrespective of birth month. I just expect him to act a certain way and instill it in him with discipline and encouragement.

And many spring birthdays are like your child, even without much extra practice/work at home. But, for some boys and girls, the extra time is a gift. I have two children with fall birthdays and as they aged, I have to say that being the oldest (and often more mature than their peers) certainly wasn't a negative thing.
I loved that my kids were among the first to drive in their class, because it met that they weren't riding with inexperienced peers. (We didn't let them drive friends for a full year, so they were just driving themselves, but no arguments about riding with friends.)

[AtlJan]

Westminster now has a hard cut-off of June 1st.

[AtlJan]

Originally Posted by LovelySummer

The next thing you know people will be redshirting kids with January birthdays. G-D forbid the kids born in fall will be more mature possibly.

As you can see I'm an advocate for simply getting your kid ready in time since you know it is coming years in advance instead of saying the kid is possibly immature when it is time to go to school. But that's just me.

OP, our kid goes to private school and actually all of the kids get along well in class and are doing just fine. The birthdays span the entire school year. Some have already turned the next year old and school started in August/September. Some will not turn the next year old until May/June/July. I know this for a fact because I know the parents and the kids are having birthday parties already. My kid is born in spring and he's a boy. We just worked with him and he is and has always been an extremely disciplined, well-behaved student and one of the smartest in the class to boot...irrespective of birth month. I just expect him to act a certain way and instill it in him with discipline and encouragement.

I disagree. Your evidence is anecdotal. You cannot extrapolate based on your ease of preparing your child that every child will take to academic work at the same pace if exposed. My children come from a long line of educators, great preschools, tons of exposure, otherwise very social and talkative, inquisitive etc... and they absolutely HATed and had no interest in written symbols through age 5. Sorry!!

[snsh5713]

I held back my August 30th birthdate girl by a year...and I couldn't have been happier with that decision for her. She really benefited from that extra year and has blossomed into a confident middle schooler who handles things very well.....

[billl]

Originally Posted by And123

I have heard a lot about holding back summer birthdays but wanted to know if anyone knew of the top private schools (which ones in particular) allowing "red shirting" for spring birthdays for maturity reasons? Thanks!

Of course they will. How do you think private schools are able to brag that their kids are a year ahead of the public schools?

[AtlJan]

Originally Posted by billl

Of course they will. How do you think private schools are able to brag that their kids are a year ahead of the public schools?

Which private schools are bragging that? Where we live in Buckhead the public elementaries follow roughly the same curriculum as the privates and redshirting is equally as common in the public elementary schools.

[billl]

Originally Posted by AtlJan

Which private schools are bragging that? Where we live in Buckhead the public elementaries follow roughly the same curriculum as the privates and redshirting is equally as common in the public elementary schools.

Maybe its an OTP thing. The ones that I talked to when I was investigating public versus private all bragged that their kids were "a year ahead" of public schools. I quickly found out it was because they were holding many of their students back a year at K or at 1, especially the younger ones (with summer birthdays).